“Every street, every stone, seemed to be only for us. We were alone on earth, in Paris in August “, Charles Aznavour, French singer

As in the song and film “Paris in August”, Umbert wants you to enjoy Paris and the charm of the “City of Lights”.

Not everything is closed, and above all everything is accessible !

Umbert enjoys terraces, gardens, a boat on the Seine and a motorcycle adventure …

Day 1

Check-in

Do you know why 1,900 red geraniums decorate the front of the hotel ? This is the testimony of the love story between Jean Gabin and Marlène Dietrich. The Plaza is a haute couture hotel where luxury is in the details, and not in extravagance. The hotel is a flower paradise in spring and summer.

Hôtel Plaza Athénée 25 avenue Montaigne 75008 Paris

Etiquette : if you have already stayed at an hotel, you can ask by booking the room number that you like so much.

Brunch 14:00-16:00 

Umbert enjoys the terrace and beautiful people on the famous Avenue Montaigne. An ideal moment to let time slip between friends, and sharing an excellent bottle of fresh rosé wine.

L’ Avenue 41 avenue Montaigne 75008 Paris

Etiquette : a man always asks his female guest if the choice of wine suits her.

Shopping 16:00-18:00

A little tipsy, Umbert wanders along Avenue Montaigne, looking for a unique piece in haute couture boutiques.

Dior : the famous haute-couture shop presents a men’s collection with sleek and young design. Christian Dior said : “Real elegance is everywhere, especially in what is not visible”.  Dior Homme 24 rue Francois 1er 75008 Paris

Yves Saint Laurent : The Saint Laurent look remains timeless from costume to shoes. Umbert admires the decoration of the shop reminiscent of the “Art Deco” style. Yves Saint Laurent 53 avenue Montaigne 75008 Paris

Etiquette : if you drop a clothe, it should be picked up unless the seller is near you and does.

St Dupont : Umbert chooses Marilyn Monroe’s favorite lighter, Jackie Kennedy, Humphrey Bogart, and a fountain pen to rediscover the taste and chic of writing. St Dupont 58 avenue Montaigne 75008 Paris

Vuarnet : Umbert has tried Mick Jagger’s 02 mount, the 06 worn by Alain Delon, and Daniel Craig’s “Glacier” model in “Specter”.  He chose the 03 model created in 1960 and worn by Jeff Bridges in the movie The Big Lebowski. Vuarnet 28 rue Boissy d’Anglas 75008 Paris

Caron : Umbert now enters the sacred world of Caron perfumes. The perfume flows from crystal fountains. In 1934 was born the mythical “For a Man” and the choice is difficult : it will be “The 3rd Man” more racy. Caron 23 rue François 1er 75008 Paris

Etiquette : knowing how to perfume is an art. A perfume is put on the wrists and in the hollow of the elbows, to keep all of its aroma.

Hairdresser 18:00-19:00

Cercle Marc Delacre : Umbert goes to his fetish care center for a moment of relaxation that includes cutting, shaving and facials.

Cercle Marc Delacre 17 avenue George V 75008 Paris

Etiquette : let the hairdresser create for you, or be precise on your desires, he will accept your choice.

Dinner 21:00 – 23:00

The garden and the terrace of the Hotel Bristol are very green, with an excellent French cuisine. Umbert follows the men’s dress code recommended by the management : smart and casual outfit, mandatory jacket, tie not mandatory but preferable. For a gift : a tea set for two from the unique “Histoire Naturelle” collection of birds and butterflies hand painted on Limoges porcelain.

L’Epicure, Hôtel Le Bristol 112 rue du Faubourg Saint Honoré 75008 Paris

Etiquette : a linen jacket is ideal for this restaurant in the summer. To be even more chic, choose a printed suit pocket, be careful pocket and tie must be different.

Cocktail 23:00 

A splendid view, the calm of the Kleber Avenue in August, Umbert joins friends on the rooftop of the Peninsula Hotel, for a tasting of the cocktail menu and lots of laughs.

The Península 19 avenue Kleber 75116 Paris

Etiquette : if the choice of the cocktail is difficult, ask the waiter or tell the bartender to compose it according to what you like.

Day 2

Coffee & Croissants 10:00 – 11:00

The freshness of the interior garden of the Plaza Athenee hotel is so pleasant in the summer … Umbert decides to have a quiet breakfast while browsing through the latest fashion magazines.

Hôtel Plaza Athénée 25 avenue Montaigne 75008 Paris

Etiquette : you can cut the croissants in half, spread a portion of butter, jam, honey as and from the tip.

Exhibition 12:00 – 14:00

The exhibition “In the Tune with the World” follows two complementary paths : “Man in the universe of life” (Humans in the universal living) & the second plunges the viewer into the world of Japanese artist : Takashi Murakami.

Au diapason du monde, Fondation Louis Vuitton 8 avenue du Mahatma Gandhi 75116 Paris (until august 27th 2018)

Etiquette : when entering the different rooms, say hello to the guards, but do not ask them to explain the works, it’s not their job.

Brunch 14:00-16:00

Umbert chooses to have a quick lunch on the spot, admiring the greenery of the Jardin D’Acclimatation.

Fondation Louis Vuitton 8 avenue du Mahatma Gandhi 75116 Paris

Etiquette : The bread is not eaten before the first course is served, even if you are very hungry !

City boat tour 16:00-19:00

Unexpected moment, Umbert joins his friends Diane and Emma for a tour on the mythical Riva boat of the 1960s, to discover Paris from the Seine : champagne on board !!!

Paris Luxury Boat, contact Laurence laurence@parisluxuryboat.com ( 06 60 16 00 79)

Etiquette : there is an aperitif on the boat : do not throw anything in the Seine, it’s good to preserve our planet.

Dinner 21:00 until late …

Tonight will be a festive dinner with all Umbert friends remained in Paris. To continue the evening, they will enjoy cocktails at the bar L’Herbarium on the roof-top. All the charm of the roofs of Paris.

Hôtel National des Arts et Métiers 243 rue Saint Martin 75003 Paris 

City moto tour 13:00-16:00

Umbert wants to enjoy the summer and chooses a very original experience to visit Paris, its history and its secrets. How ? Equipped with a vintage helmet, it takes place on board in an authentic sidecar driven by a Gentleman Sider, after choosing the formula that suits him.

Retro-tour 

Etiquette : know how to listen to the explanations of the guide, do not cut the word especially by saying “me I …”

High tea 17:00 

The weekend ends in his favorite place in Paris. Ideal time before taking the plane, the Ritz Hotel terrace. “The Ritz is the ultimate step before paradise,” said E. Hemingway. French Tea Time, in the luxurious setting of this amazing place. Madeleines, a typical French pastry, served before the Melba Peach, and the tray of 3 floors filled with old-fashioned biscuits. Not to mention the “exceptional tea”. Advance reservations required.

Summer is ending and already the images and emotions are jostling … September will be rich in discoveries and events, Umbert will make you love the beginning of autumn in Paris.

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After meeting the “right person”, here is the second crucial moment : the date.

It is also the second difficult part, because everything will have to be in finesse and elegance.

Umbert is very cultured, and very attentive to others.

He knows how to advise his friends on topics for a date.

He likes to help his foreign friends when they meet a French woman. They have the reputation of being the most difficult to conquer … yes if you don’t know what to say !

Here are Umbert’s tips :

• 1 What you can say

1 Before the appointment, you can think of a few topics. A man who does not know what to say will have no chance to please.

2 Turn off your phone !

3 Look her eyes to talk.

4 Above all, do not deal with the difficulties of your life (breaks, illness, loss of work, difficult children …).

5 Do not talk about all your life, or do it briefly, without starting from childhood. Only mention happy and positive moments.

6 Do not complain about everything (climate, cost of living, car breakdown, noisy neighbors, etc …). It will be very appreciated by a French woman.

7 Do not flood the conversation of stories about your work, and especially with technical terms. Some funny anecdotes will be much more appreciated.

8 No vulgarity, rude words, petty humor …

9 Be funny, but never vulgar. Making a woman laugh is the first step towards conquest.

10 Do not show off with your culture, especially if your guest is not an intellectual.

11 Do not show off with your money, car, house as well. Make yourself appreciate for yourself, it’s important for the future.

12 Unveil yourself, but not too much. Mysterious people always create curiosity in others, and always attract …

• 2 What you have to listen

1 Listen. Women love being listened to.

2 Ask her about her tastes, her life. (be careful, not on the intimate things).

3 Be attentive so she feels confident.

4 If she speaks about her problems, listen, advise, but at least you will not have started. Give her always right … only for the first date of course !

5 Do not let the silence settle. It’s a disaster. Know how to re-engage the conversation with simple topics : news, travel. Be careful : no politics or religion ! No subject that make people arguing strongly.

6 Accept her opinions and speak calmly.

7 Of course : no drama, neither positive nor negative.

You are open, balanced, attentive, confident, cheerful …. !! Then everything will be fine.

If all went well, ask for another date more original … You will find a good idea … !

You can take inspiration from Umbert’s monthly weekends in Paris , where you will find the latest trendy spots in Paris.

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Umbert loves to wander around Paris during his monthly weekends.

He knows that the etiquette demands to be always discreet and not to disturb, even in the street and in all circumstances.

If someone asks him his way, he always responds kindly, or apologizes if he doesn’t know the answer.

When a car driver gives him the passage, he thankfully nodded politely.

• Rainy days

They are part of the charm of Paris.

These days are often synonymous with congested sidewalks, because many streets in

Paris are narrow. Do not forget that this is what makes it historic and charming.

Umbert pays attention not to jostle someone by walking too fast, and not to disturb everyone with his umbrella.

He always lowers his umbrella to let a woman pass.

A woman, meanwhile, will lower his umbrella to let an older woman pass.

Don’t forget that many Parisians work and are often in a hurry. They should therefore be given priority.

On the opposite, if you are in a hurry, do not “stick” the person in front.

If he inadvertently hustles someone, he immediately apologizes.

• The groups

Umbert knows everybody in Paris, and he often meets friends in his favorite neighborhoods.

When discussing, they let the passage free, they don’t want to plug the sidewalk, even if the conversation is very lively.

The group also pay attention not to talk or laugh too loud, they don’t want to disturb people who live next door, especially at night.

• The priorities

Umbert is a gallant man, when he sees a woman walking on the same sidewalk, he leaves her side along the wall, proof that he takes care of her safety.

If he meets a married person with another man, he pretends not to have seen them. He lets the woman come to him, if she wishes.

If a person arrives with a stroller, he moves to let her pass.

If he meets an elderly person, he takes a step aside to let her pass.

• The cleanliness

An effort must be made by everyone to respect the environment.

Parisians who love their city try to keep it clean, but it’s not always easy.

Umbert, in an ecological approach, recalls that we should not throw anything randomly and on the sidewalks, there is always a trash nearby.

Living in society is sometimes difficult ! It is necessary to know how to make efforts even if the others do not.

Umbert respects all these rules, they contribute to the savoir-vivre with others, and to the well-being of all, wherever you are.

You can also check Umbert July Weekend In Paris.

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When Umbert and his friends go to the theater or the opera in Paris, they know that they have to be chic.

They choose their most beautiful evening costumes. It is a politeness due to the actors. The gala evenings at the opera are very dressy : an opportunity for Umbert to wear a tuxedo and a bow tie. Her friend Diane puts on a long dress.

• Here are some rules to follow :

• Be on time.
• Do not enter the room when the show is started. It is necessary to wait for the end of an act. In many theaters and at the opera, the doors are closed as soon as the show begins. What a shame to ruin an evening for a few minutes !
• It is particularly impolite to speak during the show, you have to respect the actors and other spectators.
• Even though a theater offers food, do not eat. At the opera it is strictly forbidden.
• If you do not like the show, you have to wait for the intermission to disappear, or wait for the end hoping that something will please you.
• If you fall asleep, close your eyes discreetly, it is not respectful for the actors, especially if you are in the front row.
• Do not sing the tunes you know.
• Never criticize the quality of the show, it’s a very hard job, and you have to respect it.

When Umbert goes to a show with Diane, he’s always in charge of the cloakroom, and the purchase of the program he offers to Diane.

• When he is with friends, he respects the etiquette to choose the seats :

• If there are 2 couples: The women sit in the middle, side by side, between the men (the wives next to their husband).
• If Umbert goes to the show with 2 women, he sits between them.
• Conversely, if Diane goes to the show with Umbert and Charles, she sits in the middle.
• In a box, women sit in the front row.

Umbert loves to go out, theater or opera are a priority when traveling for his monthly weekend in Paris.

“Good manners are the happy way to do things” Ralph Waldo Emerson, Philosopher, Umbert totally agree on this quote.

You can also check Umbert July Weekend In Paris.

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“Paris is a little paradise on earth. From all my loves, Paris is my favorite”, “Paris c’est sur la terre un coin de paradis. Paris, de mes amours, c’est lui le favori”, Joséphine Baker

On Saturday June16th at 15:00, 60 drivers from around the world are waiting for the green flag, which launches 24 hours of thrills and passion on the legendary Le Mans circuit.

Umbert has been part of those vibrations for a fierce battle.

Sunday 17 June 15:00, it’s over ! Umbert is waiting for the cup to be presented to Fernando Alonso before joining Paris for the monthly weekend he shares with you.

Day 1

Check-in

The new, young and trendy place, including the hotel, a bar area, a restaurant, as well as a magnificent terrace. This former 18th century mansion is listed as a historical monument, but the rooms are treated in an “arty” style. The idea is not to feel in a hotel but in a place of life. Hôtel The Hoxton 30/32 rue du Sentier 75002 Paris 

Etiquette : the staff will appreciate your thanks. Tipping is also a way of saying "thank you". The tip shout be around 5 euros for the porter, 5 euros for room service, 10 to 15 euros for the concierge.

Brunch 14:00-16:00 

Umbert loves to go back to his former gym Le Klay, and especially to his restaurant, where a young and chic clientele like to hang out and laugh. Le Klay Saint Sauveur 4 Rue Saint-Sauveur, 75002 Paris 

Etiquette : the salad should not be cut with a knife. Take your fork to fold the large leaves.

Shopping 16:00-18:00

Umbert loves walk the neighborhood in search of unusual shops and trendy items. He advises you :

• Le Repaire de Bacchus : to offer your friends the best wines and brandy. Le Repaire de Bacchus 88 rue Montorgueil 75002 Paris

• La Garçonnière : the lifestyle place for men, including clothes, a cellar and a barber. La Garçonnière 40 rue des Petits Carreaux 75002 Paris

• Espadrilles Paris : pop-up espadrilles store open until July 29th. The Basque Country joins here the California style : a total success. Espadrilles Paris 6 rue des Filles du Calvaire 75003 Paris

• Pyrenex : the French brand of duck jackets is reborn with a new Japanese designer. Pyrenex 32 rue de Poitou 75003 Paris

• FrenchTrotters : a lifestyle boutique with its own creations, young and relaxed. FrenchTrotters 128 rue Vieille du Temple 75003 Paris

• LA panoplie : 2 men designers from the South of France launched this brand in 2010. Items with the perfect cut and design. LA Panoplie 126 Rue Vieille du Temple 75003 Paris

• Basus : don’t use animal leather for its labels or creations, but cork made in France. A sleek design collection, chic and casual. Basus 1 rue de Normandie 75003 Paris

• noyoco : the Paris cloakroom unisex, with an eco-responsible collection, bio, or recycled by reusing the fabrics of major fashion houses. Very chic, simple, fresh. noyoco 9 rue Commines, 75003 Paris

Etiquette : do not call when entering a store, look at the staff and say hello.

Hairdresser 18:00-19:00

“I dreamed of settling in a lively, authentic neighborhood,” said Christophe Robin. That’s done ! This intimate and refined salon offers wonderful hair care. A pure moment of relaxation for Umbert. Christophe Robin 16 rue Bachaumont 75002 Paris

Etiquette : do not forget to cancel the appointment if you cannot come.

Dinner 21:00 – 23:00

On the roof of the Palais de Chaillot, a breathtaking view of the Eiffel Tower. A 1930s café style. Very chic and Parisian, ideal for the fireworks of July 14th, or to admire the sun set over Paris, drinking with friends. Le Café de L’Homme Palais de Chaillot 17 place du Trocadéro et du 11 novembre 75016 Paris

Etiquette : which glass to choose? The water glass is the largest on the left; the red wine glass is the middle one, the smallest white wine glass is on the right. Wipe your lips before drinking so you do not stain the glass.

Cocktail 00:00 

Balagan : perfect to have cocktails in a very central and chic neighborhood. Very friendly staff. Balagan 9 rue d’Alger 75001 Paris

Etiquette : let your female guest choose her cocktail, then order it.

Day 2

Coffee & Croissants 10:00 – 11:00

After a Parisian night that ends late as usual, Umbert loves to relax at Angelina, and enjoys croissants, pain au chocolat, pastries, coffee, tea or the famous hot chocolate in a sumptuous decor “Belle Epoque”. All the historical charm of Paris in the same place. Angelina  226 rue de Rivoli 75001 Paris

Etiquette : the butter should not be spread on a slice of whole bread. You must first cut a piece of bread with your hands, and put in a little butter before eating. 

Exhibition 12:00 – 14:00

A unique exhibition that includes a selection of Claude Monet’s late works, including the famous Nymphéas, and American artists such as Pollock, Rothko, Newman. The unexpected meeting of French Impressionism and American Abstract Expressionism. L’abstraction américaine et le dernier Monet (jusqu’au 20 Aout) L’Orangerie Place de la Concorde 75001 Paris

Etiquette : do not stay too long in front of a work if there are many people. Sit on a bench to watch and enjoy it.

Brunch 14:00-16:00

Umbert now joins his friends for a lunch on the terrace, facing the Louvre. Inventive and healthy cuisine. Umbert always orders the fish of the day or vegetarian dishes constantly reinvented. Le Fumoir 6 rue de l’Amiral de Coligny 75001 Paris 

Etiquette : if you eat a soft fish, use the fish cutlery; if the flesh is hard use the cutlery especially the knife.

Shopping 16:00-19:00

Original or traditional shops of the famous rue Cambon and Saint-Honoré attract Umbert who invites you to discover them.

• nous : an all-for-male universe specialized in streetwear, high-tech, watchmaking. The chic street-culture is also present with skateboards, unique pieces, adorned with photos of Araki, Warhol or Basquiat. nous 48 rue Cambon 75001 Paris

• Maison Michel : Umbert tries hats, caps, models “André, Rico or Charles”. This shop provides fashion designers : Chanel, Saint Laurent. Not to mention the hat brushes and the famous hat boxes. Maison Michel 22 rue Cambon 75001 Paris

• Astier de Villatte : Umbert offers her friend Emma to admire the most beautiful hand-crafted ceramics made in Paris. The pieces are unique : tableware, household items : a great gift idea … Astier de Villatte 173 rue Saint-Honoré 75001 Paris

• Le Labo : perfumes created in front of you and with you, not tested on animals, original and personalized scents. Tailored to you and your personality. Le Labo 203 rue Saint – Honoré 75001 Paris

Etiquette : the choice of a perfume is delicate. Seller's advices are valuable. The criteria are : your age, your style (sporty, natural, sophisticated), your fashion style and your place of life, the time of the day.

Dinner 21:00

Colonial and cozy spirit, imaginative Thai cuisine, terrace and greenery in Paris. Happiness and a festive evening for Umbert and his friends. He loves Bamboo, and the atmosphere is such that he never wants to leave the place, and ends the night comfortably sitting in an armchair while enjoying cocktails. Bambou 23 rue des Jeuneurs 75002 Paris

Etiquette : it is the man who places the order to the server. The man has to wait for the woman to start eating first.

Day 3

Brunch 12:00 – 14:00

Under the arcades of the Napoleon courtyard at the Louvre, one of the most mythical settings in Paris, with an exceptional view of the Louvre pyramid from the shaded terrace. One of the favorite places of Umbert who likes the mixture between the history of France and the modernity of the place. Café Le Marly 93 rue de Rivoli 75001 Paris

Etiquette : when the waiter comes to you with a bottle of red wine, look at the label to check the order. Turn the red wine in your glass delicately before tasting and agreeing.

Exhibition 14:00-16:00

Umbert loves French culture and is looking forward to this wonderful exhibition. In association with the Metropolitan Museum of Art, 180 works help to understand the career of Eugene Delacroix, sometimes unknown. This exhibition shows what inspired and directed him. Eugène Delacroix  Musée du Louvre 2 Place du Carrousel cour Napoléon 75001 Paris 

Etiquette : instead of taking pictures, you can buy the book at the shop of the exhibition.

High tea 17:00 

The interior garden of the hotel is a zen and magic place before leaving Paris. A fountain, a tree suspended by red ropes over the water according to a Japanese tradition, birds. An invitation to a refined and gourmet exoticism. Le Camelia at Hôtel Mandarin Oriental 251 rue Saint Honoré 75001 Paris

Etiquette : it is useless to lift a finger while drinking your tea, this is very old style ... Do not leave the spoon in the cup, place it on the plate.

Summer is not over .. luckily ! The month of August is a privileged moment in Paris, Umbert will enjoy the calm, and discover new places that he will share with you.

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“Ocean’s 8” shows us the “hand-kissing” ! Richard Armitage, allias Claude Becker, bow in front of Anne Hataway, allias Daphne Kluger, and makes her the “hand-kissing”.

Umbert is used to major international events, and he knows the MET Gala in New York, where the movie takes place.

He likes to watch pretty girls in evening dresses, all very originals.

The “hand-kissing” is chic, but requires courtesy, restraint and elegance.

The hand-kissing is never practiced in the street, or in a public place : cafe, restaurant, opera, cinema, beach, etc …

Umbert specifies that it can only be practiced with married women. It must be avoided with foreigners who are not used to it, except those who used to the international etiquette.

During a reception, a man can only do a hand-kissing to the mistress of the house, and the elderly ladies.

It is not appropriate for a gloved hand, except that of a dear friend.

The technique :

1 The man must not raise the lady outstretched hand towards him.

2 The man must bow and touch the hand he gently takes.

3 He does not kiss the hand but touches it with his chin.

4 The kiss must be fast, brief.

Umbert is looking forward to traveling again to these major international events.

New York often misses him, but Paris is more into his heart.

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Whether in Paris or traveling, Umbert respects the etiquette codes of each country.

An essential rule exists everywhere : to avoid vulgar words and vulgarity in general. Louis Pelletier-Dlamini wrote : “Everything is understood except vulgarity”.

• 1 Rude words

The evolution of the manners makes the use of the coarse words very current nowadays. Sometimes no one pays attention. But precisely, you have to stand out to please.

This is why, in all circumstances, Umbert tries to never use rude words.

When he is alone, he does a very simple exercise : replace a vulgar word with another prettier word. Umbert advises you to do this exercise, which will quickly become a game and which will make you a person whom ones like to frequent.

Nevertheless if you say a bad word, what will happen, the tone on which it is said is also important : humor, rebellion, rebellious, yes! But never aggressive!

The use of slang or vulgar language is ridiculous for adults.

In a company, it can shock, or not, according to the habits.

This is worse in front of children, where you should never use rude words, even to laugh. If this happens, then you have to explain them that it is a mistake.

Umbert remembers a father who had said a rude word to his son, in front of his friends : the child cried because his friends laughed at him. We must think of the reactions of other people.

• 2 The vulgarity

There are different forms of vulgarity, other than language as we’ve just seen :

• The tone is important. So it must be laid, avoiding excesses in emotions : for example, screaming even if one is angry.
• The posture is also important : always straight, even sitting or standing, but easy.
• Always dress with good taste. For exemple you can read our article : 10 Clothing tips for men, according to the French etiquette https://umbert-de-paris.com/10-clothing-tips-for-men-according-to-the-french-etiquette /
• The general attitude, like the way of walking, is also part of the codes to respect.

In other words, avoiding vulgarity and adopting good taste is a general attitude, which you can work on, step by step, following Umbert’s advice on this blog.

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Umbert is always elegant, or casual chic, even when he plays sports.

His Parisian friends also follow fashion, in all circumstances, and often ask him for advice.

The professional category, the age, the way of life, are important in man fashion, and each one will choose his style.

However there are basics to respect to not look old-fashioned in Paris, on any occasion.

• 1 Leaders : during the all year, it is fashionable to wear a suit. In the coming winter, Umbert will choose dark suits with a plain, thin-striped plain shirt, and a plain or patterned tie (never the same color as the shirt), and a breast pocket. Umbert trusts the sellers of Charvet 28 Place Vendôme 75001 Paris, to match shirt, tie and breast pocket.

• 2 Intellectuals : fashion is not always important for them, they cultivate a style falsely neglected, that you can adopt when visiting Paris : tweed jacket, sweater with big ribs, comfortable velvet trousers, scarf.

• 3 Communicators : often in black or gray, no tie, but a scarf. Umbert loves to wear a cashmere scarf for the winter. The Lana Di Capra boutique 1 rue Auber 75009 Paris offers a “haute couture” choice.

• 4 The exubérants : everything seems possible to them, but pay attention to the limit not to exceed.

• 5 Never put the tie in the waistband of your pants, the tie should barely touch the top of the pants.

• 6 The small side of the tie should not be longer than the large one.

• 7 Do not wear synthetic costumes, it shines, it’s uncomfortable, and there are so many natural materials available !

• 8 Avoid short-sleeved shirts, unless they are bent, sleeves tight, plain, prefer timeless polos.

• 9 Large belt buckles can be worn on jeans, but never with a suit.

• 10 The socks must go up below the knee, of course nobody can see them, but in Paris you never know …;) The choice of the color is important : choose the pant or shoes color. Umbert loves the shop Mes Chaussettes Rouges 9 rue César Franck Paris 75015, their advices are always the best.

Umbert will give you even more clothing tips in future articles.

He will take care to follow the fashion for man, but always remaining in the style dandy-chic, that the Parisians love so much.

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Umbert de Paris

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“You’ll never have a second chance to make a good impression,” David Swanson

Umbert is a man to whom his friends like to confess. Politeness and friendship have a rule : never tell another person the confidences made by a friend.

Today he meets Alexandre at the Café de Flore in Paris.

Alexandre looks for a fiancée and asks Umbert for advices on how to behave if he meets a pretty Parisian.

Umbert reminds him that a Parisian girl is difficult to seduce, so it is important to follow his advices.

• 1 The rule

Umbert advises him simplicity and a smile.

The smile is the number one asset of seduction. Review Umbert’s advice in the General Comportment bonus, offered when you register on this blog.

However, when he will meet her, there may be other contenders, so he must put all the chances on his side.

• 2 If the meeting is fortuitous or with friends

Whether he is beautiful, intelligent, rich or the opposite, it is important to highlight his qualities. For example, his success in an industry or a sport.

Be friendly, funny and charming.

Have physical, moral and intellectual elegance.

Avoid at all costs the vulgarity, the “heaviness” in the behavior, and don’t do too much, or say too much.

The one who makes a woman laugh will be ahead of the one who floods her with to many compliments.

Tip: prefer this funny phrase “Should I knee down to invite you to dinner soon?”, Honestly, how could you resist, especially if he gets on his knees, rather than this heavier  sentence “You are the most beautiful woman I have never met ! Angélina Jolie is nothing next to you « . Another solution is the gallantry” Where did you get this beautiful complexion? «  This shows that you are attentive.

In all cases avoid personal problems, excessive development, and focus on the interest of the other.

• 3 You met on the internet

If you have already talked on the Internet and you know a little : arrive in advance, never be late to the first appointment. It would be a huge and gross mistake, especially with a Parisian !!!!

Find a sentence to welcome her, delicate, kind without doing too much.

If the meeting takes place at the restaurant, you can read Umbert’s article “How to behave at the restaurant, according to the French etiquette“.

If you are disappointed : do not show it, you will not see again.

Do not immediately talk about all the problems in your life. You would give a lamentable first image.

A little shyness does not hurt or at least a little reserve.

Alexander now feels reassured by Umbert’s advices.

He particularly retains the simplicity and the smile that already correspond to his personality.

Umbert wishes Alexandre good luck, and offers to see him again if he needs further advices.

As a bonus, Umbert offers you the first chapter of his French Etiquette training when you register for this Blog. 

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Bon voyage !

Umbert de Paris

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Umbert loves Paris and its restaurants. The french gastronomy is amazing, and every month, he gives you his choice for the best places. You can check Umbert June Weekend In Paris .

To behave correctly at the restaurant is not a protocol matter, but part of the French art de vivre and etiquette.

First you have to differentiate the roles of men and women.

• 1 For you gentlemen

A man always goes first to the restaurant. Why ? This is an old tradition : to protect the woman from looks, or fights that was common in hostels in the past.

If there is a staircase : the man goes first, it is also an old tradition because the man should not see the legs of the woman, and when they go down to avoid a fall to the lady.

When Umbert invites friends to the restaurant, he asks for a table, and leads his guests there.

If you have invited a woman, be sure to arrive before the time, if not contact her.

A compliment on her outfit and elegance will always be appreciated.

If the butler leads a couple to the table, the woman goes first.

If the man arrives before, and is already at the table, he must get up when the woman arrives to greet her.

Never sit down first. The bench is always reserved for ladies. If there are two women, they will be side by side. If there are only chairs, think of pulling the woman’s chair, unless the butler does it.

It is the man who places the order at the Maître d’Hotel and chooses the wines, after having asked the woman if his choice suits her.

The man serves the drink to the woman who accompanies him, unless the butler does it.

The man asks for the bill, and pay it discreetly. If there are errors, do not discuss them in front of the guests.

• 2 For you ladies

When Diane is invited by Umbert to the restaurant, she always chooses her dishes quickly, never chooses what is too expensive or the cheapest, because that can upset the one who invites you.

Diane always finishes the dishes served, even if something does not suit her.

If you have allergies, it is normal to report them before.

If she wants to take care of her, she goes to the bathroom.

• 3 General attitude at the restaurant

Umbert and his friends love to talk and laugh. They are often numerous at the restaurant. They know however that it is necessary to speak with a moderate tone not to disturb the other clients.

Fortunately everyone knows perfectly the rules of etiquette so there is no disorder, and nobody is shocked. !

When you sit down to table, immediately put your towel on your legs, without waiting for the dish.

Before starting to taste the dishes, wait until everyone is served. Exception : if you are many at the table, and your neighbors ask you to start. But for an appetizer or a cold dish, wait for everyone to be served.

Do not look at the neighbors’ plate at another table.

As you leave, slide between the tables facing the next table.

On leaving, do not linger on the sidewalk making noise, the Parisians sleep … when they do not go out …

You are comfortable at the restaurant with the advice of Umbert, you can take full advantage of it, because “Gluttony is an incredible source of happiness” Pierre Hermé, famous French pastry chef.

As a bonus, Umbert offers you the first chapter of his French Etiquette training when you register for this Blog. 

In the meantime, to receive upcoming videos, podcasts, new articles, or all of this regularly updated training, subscribe to the YouTube channel, podcasts on iTunes or directly on this Blog.

Bon voyage !

Umbert de Paris