Umbert wishes you Happy Holidays.
It has been a great pleasure to be with you in 2018 !
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Umbert De Paris
Happy Holidays !
Dos & Don’ts for a great table conversation (video & podcast)
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Tonight Umbert is invited to an amazing dinner at Ducasse sur Seine.
Other guests will be some friends but also famous people from the arts and business Parisian scene.
What are the Dos & Don’ts for a great table conversation ?
Umbert gives you the basics so you won’t have a bad experience at your next party. The more you practice, the better you will be.
Benefits of this coaching :
- Best methodology to become irresistible
- Innovative technique to unleash your charisma
- Learn the new etiquette & manners
- A better lifestyle
« During a conversation, be sure to not have the last word, the first. », Sacha Guitry, French actor
“Dans la conversation, gardez-vous bien d’avoir le dernier mot, le premier.”, Sacha Guitry, acteur Français
In this article :
1) General rules
2) Do not monopolize the conversation
3) Do not be “hypochondriac”
4)Topics to avoid
5) The problem of the « silent” person
6) When can you talk & what can you say
1) General rules
When speaking, just bend your head in the direction of the other person, and not your shoulders, to not turn your back to the other neighbor.
Share your conversation equally between your neighbors on the right and on the left.
Men, besides serving wine, must also speak to their female neighbors.
Try to find out what topics interest them and ask questions. Great speakers open their mind and the conversation. They open the door.
If your neighbors do not speak to you, do not show your boredom (think of your weekend!). If the situation becomes troublesome, ask them with a smile.
Do not argue with a guest at the other end of the table.
Never interrupt, except if the other is rudeness or vulgar. On the opposite, always listen a lot, you will learn something for sure, and the other will feel listened.
Do not say what has to be done or not done. You can argue, but always consider the other point of view.
Do not gossip or criticize on anyone.
Congratulate the hostess for her amazing party.
Warning: if you make a mistake, if the other guests feel offended, this could ruin the party.
2) Do not monopolize the conversation
Whoever speaks only of his work, in addition with technical terms, can quickly become boring. Try to tell a funny anecdote instead.
The sports enthusiast: do not comment on your 18 holes of golf in front of non players.
If this happens, the host must react at the right time, by skillfully hooking up a more general topic : eg Rugby ⇒ travel.
The “Me, I”: The one who interrupts all the time by “me-I”. The host must react and after a while return to the one that was cut “Charles do not finish, tell us Charles stp”.
3) Do not be “hypochondriac”
This is hell for the one who has asked for your news, and for those who are hearing the details of your treatments and operations.
The host must quickly reorient it. Example: “François, you look great, how was your last vacation?”
4) Topics to avoid
Policy
Religion
Money
The recipe: Shut up or moderate your opinions.
Disagreements can appear. Always start to calm down, listen to the other, agree with him in a way, and tell your argument with moderation.
5) The problem of the « silent” person
If you do not like talking or if you feel strange in this dinner:
Make a very big effort to find a general subject or compliment the hostess.
If necessary, prepare some discussion topics in advance.
6) When can you talk & what can you say
Yes, knowing how to express yourself is an art.
During a dinner, do not monopolize the conversation. It must be an exchange.
You must never interupt.
If you are shy, and someone asks you some questions or invites you to express yourself: go ahead and answer.
If you have to make a speech:
- Prepare your speech. You’ll feel more relaxed and will avoid any drama. Few good improvisers!
- Tell the person organizing the reception.
- The speech must be: personal, original, simple, clear and brief.
- Start with « Ladies & Gentlemen. » If a personality is in the room: Start with its title.
- Do not stay away from the subject.
- Stay positive even if it’s about a disaster.
- Do not talk about yourself.
Umbert remembers you the Dos & Don’ts for a great table conversation.
Tonight he will have once again an amazing time in Paris, especially because the dinner will on a boat, watching all the sparkling illuminations of Paris.
What you must remember : If all the guests feel and stay confortable, the party will be a success. A drama would ruin everything. Stay on general topics, and always give your best original and positive comments.
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Bon voyage !
Umbert De Paris
How to offer the most beautiful flowers (video & podcast)
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Umbert is invited at his best friend Victoria. He always bring a very chic bouquet.
Everyone can offer flowers: children, women, men.
But if the rule is easy, nothing is more difficult than knowing how to apply it.
Umbert is gonna help you about How to offer the most beautiful flowers.
Benefits of this coaching :
- Best methodology to become irresistible
- Innovative technique to unleash your charisma
- Learn the new etiquette & manners
- A better lifestyle
« The flowers of spring are the dreams of winter, told, in the morning, at the table of angels », Gibran Khalil Gibran, poet
« Les fleurs du printemps sont les rêves de l’hiver, racontés, le matin, à la table des anges », Gibran Khalil Gibran, poètes
In this article :
1) Who are flowers offered to?
2) How to offer them?
3) The choice of flowers
1) Who are flowers offered to?
A child can offer some flowers to all the women of his family (do not forget the grandmother). Rarely to a teacher.
A woman offers flowers to married or single women. But a girl can give it to her father or one of her parents. Also an employee at her employer.
A man to a girl, preferably by handing them himself. He can also send them to a single or to a married woman. A son to his father. An employee to his female employer.
2) How to offer them?
Either send them.
Either bring them yourself.
It depends on how you relation with the other is. If you bring them you will seem closer to the other.
For a dinner or lunch, you can send them the day before, the morning or the next day to thank. Exception: for a cocktail we bring neither flowers nor chocolates but a word written the next day to thank.
3) The choice of flowers
The choice varies according to the personality of the hostess, the circumstances, the decor.
We must remain classic: avoid paper and plastic decoration.
Ask for a transparent packaging, it’s more chic.
The label is proscribed for potted flowers.
Waterproof paper bouquets with water are allowed.
Do not offer gladioli and carnations.
Offer by odd number except for the dozens.
Staple a business card to the bouquet.
There is a language of flowers. The best is to ask the florist for advices.
Here are some easy rules to follow if you want to say chic, but offer the most beautiful flowers.
Umbert is famous for always bringing the best ones.
He chooses his flowers in the best flower shops of Paris. They are some of the best in the world, always very chic.
What you must remember : always keep it classic and chic. Follow the seller advices regarding the langage of flowers, and don’t forget to staple a card to the bouquet.
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Bon voyage !
Umbert De Paris
The best December & January weekends in Paris (Vidéo & Podcast)
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The very romantic city of Vienna, in Austria, celebrated 100 years of Viennese artistic modernism. Umbert participated in the debates at the famous Café Sacher Wien on the artistic impact of Klimt, Wagner, Schiele at the beginning of the 20th century.
Umbert loves these cultural events, where artists, intellectuals and people with whom to talk, pleasantly mix.
It’s now time for one of the best weekends of the year: Paris!
December is the month of illuminations in the City of Lights.
A magical atmosphere awaits Umbert and his friends.
Benefits of this coaching :
- Best methodology to become irresistible
- Innovative technique to unleash your charisma
- Learn the new etiquette & manners
- A better lifestyle
“On the quays of old Paris, along the Seine, happiness smiles.”, Lucienne Delyle, French singer
“Sur les quais du vieux Paris, le long de la Seine, le bonheur sourit.”, Lucienne Delyle, chanteuse française
In this article :
1) Day 1
- Check-in : Park Hyatt Paris-Vendôme
- Brunch : La Régalade Saint-Honoré
- Shopping : Camille Fournet, Heschung, Le Comptoir Saint-Honoré, Montagut, Hermes, Saint-Laurent, Nous
- Cosmetic shop : Fragonard
- Hairdresser : La Clé du Barbier
- Dinner : Le Grand Véfour
- Cocktail : Bar Hemingway at The Ritz
2) Day 2
- Coffee & Croissants : Hôtel Park Hyatt Paris- Vendôme
- Exhibition : Basquiat and Egon Schiele, Fondation Vuitton
- Brunch : Le Frank, Fondation Vuitton
- City tour : Champs Elysées, Arc de Triomphe, place de la Concorde, place Vendôme, boulevard Haussmann, rue du Faubourg Saint-Honoré, Rue de Rivoli
- Dinner : Les Sardignac
- Show : Jean -Paul Gaultier Fashion Freak Show, Théâtre des Folies Bergère
- Cocktail : Les Grands Verres
3) Day 3
- Brunch : Market
- Exhibition : Picasso « Bleu et Rose », Musée d’Orsay
- High tea : Le Daniel
Day 1
- Check-in
Near Place Vendôme, rue du Faubourg Saint-Honoré, in the heart of Paris, this palace is of an exceptional elegance. Ed Tuttle, interior designer, explains: “we wanted to revisit classicism and get something strong and timeless”. It’s perfectly done !
Park Hyatt Paris-Vendôme, 5 rue de la Paix 75002 Paris
- Brunch 14:00-15:00
“Authenticity” is the word that perfectly describes this chic bistro. Umbert advises the pigeon on the spit, and for the dessert : the amazing rice pudding.
La Régalade Saint-Honoré, 106 rue Saint- Honoré 75001 Paris
- Shopping 15:00-17:00
The brand specializes in hand-made watchbands, also offers custom-made bracelets. The choice is difficult, but Umbert loves the winter color bracelets.
The gloves of the Lavabre Cadet brand are essential for the winter.
Camille Fournet, 5 rue Cambon 75001 Paris
Manufacturer of shoes since 1934, this brand favors a very supple leather. The Richelieu style with buckles is always synonymous with elegance.
Heschung, 8 rue du Marché Saint-Honoré 75001 Paris
Umbert can not go shopping in this neighborhood, without stopping at the famous chef Alain Ducasse’s chocolate shop. The “discovery box” will be an amazing gift for Christmas.
Le Comptoir Saint-Honoré, 9 rue du Marché Saint-Honoré 75001 Paris
The clothes, and especially knitted sweaters, are made in the most noble materials: cashmere, wool and silk. The manufacturing avoids thick stitching, which is ideal for wearing sweaters under a coat.
Montagut, 15 Place du Marché Saint-Honoré 75001 Paris
It is impossible not to admire the Christmas windows of this world famous brand for Christmas. Umbert loves the “Grand H Shaped Pouch 45” and the “Nevada cap”.
Hermes, 24 rue du Faubourg Saint-Honoré 75008 Paris
The black color dominates the winter collection. Umbert loves the “Moiré velvet tuxedo” for New Year’s Eve, and the “bombers”.
Saint-Laurent, 32 rue du Faubourg Saint-Honoré 75008 Paris
Umbert, hip dandy of the capital, will choose the gifts for his friends in this stylish and inventive concept store. He particularly likes the watches and high-tech items.
nous, 48 rue Cambon 75001 Paris
- Cosmetic shop 17:00-18:00
The perfumes from the city of Grasse were classified in November as Unesco heritage. Fragonard is synonymous with discretion and chic. Umbert is also thinking of this as a gift.
Fragonard, 207 rue Saint Honoré 75001 Paris
- Hairdresser 18:00 – 19:00
A place for men only! Umbert appreciates this friendly place for the haircut, the old-fashioned shave, but also the bar to relax.
La Clé du Barbier, 70 rue Saint-Honoré 75001 Paris
- Dinner 20:00 – 23:00
A mythical and gastronomic restaurant, symbol of the Paris history. From Napoleon to Sartre, intellectuals, artists and politicians are regulars of this magical place. Umbert advises the foie gras with a truffle sauce, the blue lobster, and the chocolate cube for dessert that must be broken to discover the interior. An old-school experience, in a sumptuous setting.
Le Grand Véfour, 17 rue de Beaujolais 75001 Paris
- Cocktail 23:00
After this amazing diner, Umbert and his friends head to the Bar Hemingway, at The Ritz. “The Ritz is the ultimate step before paradise,” said E. Hemingway. The small and busy bar was the house of Cole Porter, F. Scott Fitzgerald, Ernest Hemingway, Gary Cooper, and of course the master of the house : Chef Barman Colin Field, worldwide known.
Bar Hemingway, Hôtel Ritz 15 place Vendôme 75001 Paris
Day 2
- Coffee & Croissants 10:00 – 12:00
A breakfast in the “La Cheminée” room to start a day of discoveries in Paris.
Park Hyatt Paris-Vendôme, 5 rue de la Paix 75002 Paris
- Exhibition 12:00-14:00
One of the most awaited exhibitions, to discover more than 120 works of the two essential painters from the 20th century. It features Basquiat rarely seen works such as “Offensive Orange”, and Egon Schiele, an Austrian painter, a terrible child of the Viennese Secession.
Basquiat & Egon Schiele, Fondation Vuitton, 8 avenue du Mahatma Gandhi 75116 Paris (until 01/19/19)
- Brunch 14:00 – 16:00
Umbert chooses to have a quick brunch there, admiring the greenery of the Acclimatization Garden.
Le Frank, Fondation Vuitton 8 avenue du Mahatma Gandhi 75116 Paris
- City tour 16:00-18:00
The City of Lights is unique in December! What a pleasure to walk around and discover the places transformed by the Christmas lights. Umbert walks the Champs Elysées avenue, the Arc de Triomphe, Place de la Concorde, then from Place Vendôme to the Boulevard Haussmann, admiring the Garnier Opera, and finishes rue du Faubourg Saint-Honoré.
Then he stops Rue de Rivoli, number 226, at Angelina, to taste the special Christmas cake.
Angelina, 226 Rue de Rivoli 75001 Paris
- Dinner 19:00 – 20:00
A wine bar, with very good wines bought directly to the producers, and a bistro with inventive cuisine. Umbert loves the “croq’Sardignac with truffle gouda”, the Basque charcuterie, and shares with his friends the Prunier caviar.
Les Sardignac, 27 rue Richer 75009 Paris
- Show 20:00 – 23:00
The famous designer again surprises us! “This show is the story of my life” says Jean-Paul Gaultier for this exuberant, breathtaking show. Fashion, dance, music, it’s all about his life.
Jean -Paul Gaultier Fashion Freak Show, Théâtre des Folies Bergère 32 rue Richer 75009 Paris
- Cocktail 23:00
A 13 meters long bar, with a spectacular view on the wonderful Palais de Tokyo, with amazing cocktails. Umbert, very involved in the preservation of the planet, appreciates the choice of the team: no waste, limited packaging, trying to make compost.
Les Grands Verres, 13 avenue du Président Wilson 75016 Paris
Day 3
- Brunch 11:00 – 13:00
In a very chic decor of marble, wood and leather, this new and very fashionable place, allows you to enjoy a brunch with a choice of two dishes. Umbert recommends the “black Angus burger” which is amazing.
Market, 15 avenue Matignon 75008 Paris
- Exhibition 13:00 – 16:00
For the first time, a museum presents the works of Picasso between 1900 and 1906. The blue and pink periods of Picasso are decisive in the young artist career. A major artistic event to discover, in a magical place.
Picasso « Bleu et Rose », Musée d’Orsay 1 rue de la Légion d’Honneur 75007 Paris (until 01/06/19)
- High tea 16:00
Umbert offers you a trip out of time in this intimate place. Each tea has incredible aromas. Umbert likes this moment of relaxation to chat with friends, and taste homemade cakes, homemade jams, and a choice of honey and pastries. And champagne of course !
Le Daniel, 8 rue Frédéric-Bastiat 75008 Paris
Umbert and his friends had The best December weekend ever in Paris !
This is really the best time of the year in the city.
It’s now time to wish you the best holidays ever.
See you in 2019 to work on your irresistible personality !!!
What you must remember : December is one of the best time in Paris. It is full of lights everywhere. Try to role play the etiquette advices when you are in the advised locations, it is very fun ! Once again Umbert wishes you the best holidays ever !
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Umbert De Paris
Table manners for your holiday party, Gentlemen only ! (video & podcast)
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Today Umbert helps his friend Georges coming from Cape Town in South Africa.
Georges needs an update about the table manners for the holiday party.
A very fun moment for both of us, cause they will do role play.
Benefits of this coaching :
- Best methodology to become irresistible
- Innovative technique to unleash your charisma
- Learn the new etiquette & manners
- A better lifestyle
« If you do not know good manners, pray for good reflexes … », Billy Crystal, American Actor
“Si vous ne connaissez pas les bonnes manières, priez pour avoir de bons réflexes…“, Billy Crystal, Acteur Américain
In this article :
1) Going to the table
2) At the table
3) Table service
4) The toast
5) How to eat some dishes
1) Going to the table
About 1 hour after the beginning of the aperitif it is time to sit down at the table.
Here is the timeline :
- The host gets up and offers the guests to sit down at the table. He does not hurry the guests who have the courtesy not to hang out too much.
- He places the guests or the guests look for the place cards. Do not change the order.
- The men help their neighbors to sit down behind the chair and back to the table once the woman sits.
- Men sit after women.
If a woman gets up during the meal, all the men get up too (optional, this for a very formal dinner).
If a new guest arrives late, the men get up, the women do not (optional, this for a very formal dinner).
If a woman arrives late at the table, the men stay up until she sits (optional, this for a very formal dinner).
Never forget that you aren’t the host who should handle the party.
Do not take any initiative (turn down the lights, install the guests, go to the kitchen) without asking permission.
2) At the table
Attention: The good education is judged now …
If you hesitate, look and imitate the other guests or the host.
Only sit down after the host.
Do not stick to the table. Stay 50 cm away.
Stand upright without leaning against the chair.
Put your hands on the table.
Do not put your belongings on the table.
It is very impolite to take medicines at the table.
Carefully unfold the towel and put it on your knees. Never put it in the collar. If it is very large, keep it folded in half on your knees.
Take the piece that is in front of you when you are presented with a dish. Think about testing a bit of everything.
Wait for the house host to start eating.
Use cutlery in order: from the outside to the inside.
The cutlery must be held so that the fingers touch only the handle: a few centimeters above the blade of the knife or the fork. Do not gesticulate with the cutlery while talking.
Never eat with your elbows on the table. If you prick red meat with your right hand, do not put your left elbow on the table. The elbows must remain stuck to the body. Even to cut the meat.
To push the food in your plate: in France use bread, in England the knife.
Do not lean towards your plate. Raise the fork or spoon to the mouth while standing upright.
Do not bite into the bread. Delicately cut eat with your fingers if it is not already cut.
Eat without noise. If a soup is served, do not vacuum it or blow on it if it is too hot. Wait a few seconds for it to cool down.
Your mouth must be shut when eating.
Never lick your knife.
Never eat the sauce with bread. Exception: if the host prides you the sauce and invites you to taste it, then yes. In this case sauce by putting a piece of bread at the end of your fork. Never with your fingers.
If you want the salt and pepper, or whatever, ask your neighbor. You never reach out to someone.
The glasses are placed in order.
Remember to serve wine or water to your female neighbors.
Wipe your mouth gently before drinking and after drinking. Do not lift your little finger to drink.
If you do not want wine, gently touch the glass with 2 fingers, expressing your refusal.
If you need to lay your cutlery while you are eating a dish, put them on the inverted V in your plate (/ \); the handle should never touch the table, cutlery are almost entirely on the plate.
It is polite to finish your plate, it shows that you’ve really appreciate the dinner.
Do not spread your leftovers on the plate.
At the end of a dish, place the cutlery next to each other at “quarter past four” and not “quarter past nine.” The fork teeth in the air.
At the end of the meal, put your towel lightly on the left of the plate. Exception: if you stay with at someone’s, either fold it or get a towel ring.
The house host gets up first.
3) Table service
All dishes are presented on the left.
The wines are presented on the right.
The plate and cutlery are removed from the left. They are replaced (if possible at the same time) by the right.
Never serve by stacking plates or, worse, dragging leftovers.
Only the salad can be served on the same plate as the main course. The ideal is to provide another plate for this purpose that you will place on the left of the large plate.
The service without butler:
- Serve first the lady sitting to the right of the master of the house.
- Then the one to his left.
- Then opposite, the one sitting to the right of the hostess.
- Then the one on the left.
- Then the 2nd in the same order, etc …
- The host is served last.
- For men, same principle from the one to the right of the hostess then left …
- The last served is the master of the house.
For a meal with friends: the first woman served passes to her neighbor on the right, who will serve his female neighbor, or, if the host ask, will serve himself before.
Option: The host serves the guests who tend their plates.
4) The toast
If you are toasted, you must answer it.
- Raise your glass, no higher than the chin, holding it by the foot.
- Toast yourself by taking a sip.
- Finally, look the person in front of you in the eyes and make a kind head sign.
- A toast is never done with a glass of water, even if you do not drink alcohol.
- It is elegant not to address only the one who initiated the toast, but also to your neighbors on the right and left, with the glass, eyes and smile, without necessarily drinking.
5) How to eat some dishes
For the dishes bellow, you can read the article on the blog.: https://umbert-de-paris.com/how-to-eat-etiquette-manners/
- Soup
- Asparagus
- Artichoke
- Salad
- Caviar
- Oysters
- Mussels
- Lobsters
- Sushis
- Foie gras
- Escargots
- Omelet
- Spaghetti
- Fishes
- Poultries
- Sandwiches
- Tacos
- French fries
- Cheese
- Fruit pies
- Chocolate cake
- Orange
- Pear/apple
- Ice-cream
Umbert and Georges had so much fun playing table manners for their holiday party.
The gentlemen will impress the other guests for sure, especially the ladies.
What you must remember : tables manners seem to be very complicated, but they are not when assimilated. The best is to role play with a friend. If you you feel trapped in a dinner party, just imitate the others discreetly.
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Bon voyage !
Umbert De Paris
How to welcome your guests to your dinner party at home ? (video & podcast)
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Umbert is planning his holiday invitations at home.
He will be so happy to welcome his friends and family in his sumptuous apartment in Paris.
He wants to help you remember some simple rules on How to welcome your guests to your dinner party at home.
Benefits of this coaching :
- Best methodology to become irresistible
- Innovative technique to unleash your charisma
- Learn the new etiquette & manners
- A better lifestyle
“We do not arrive at people home empty-handed”, French proverb
“ On n’arrive pas chez les gens qui nous invitent les mains vides”, proverbe Français
In this article :
1) Welcoming guests
2) The présentations
3) The hand kissing (optional)
1) Welcoming guests
Forget about the fatigue, nervousness, worries …
The host must imperatively be ready to welcome his guests. Umbert likes to dress, perfume, to make sure that his style is impeccable.
Everyone is greeted with a kind word that express the joy of receiving.
If the guests have sent flowers or chocolates before, thank them warmly, but discreetly to not bother those who would not have brought anything.
If there are few guests, open the package in front of them. If it is chocolates or candies, offer them at the end of the dinner.
If there are many guests, open them afterwards, and call or write the next day to thank.
It is necessary to provide vases with the water for the flowers offered. Arrange the flowers in it and highlight the bouquet.
If someone bring wine that does not fit the menu, say that you keep it to share it with them at the next dinner.
If one bring fresh champagne, serve it as an aperitif or dessert.
Toasting can bring fun and make your party special. The host proposes it to celebrate this night, to welcome everyone or a special guest. The host should stand up, raise his glass, make a short speech and have fun ! Don’t forget to watch everyone, then look at the special guest, if there is one, who will say a polite thank you.
When the aperitif is finished (1 hour maximum) the host gets up and places the guests.
If a guest is very late, do not wait for him to eat.
2) The présentations
The presentations are the first act of interaction with the other guests.
The first impression being the one that counts the most, Umbert reminds you of the basic rules of the New Etiquette and manners.
Immediately giving the best self-image is a difficult art, so Umbert offers you those general advices that are easy to follow anywhere :
- First you have to stand-up to meet the guests.
- Keep your arms loosely at your side, ready to shake hands.
- Smile to give the image of a person at ease, happy to know those that are presented to you.
- Do maintain eye contact to prove your sincerity and confidence, do not keep your sunglasses if you are outside.
- Speak clearly to avoid having the caller repeat, especially your name, so never chew gum, or eat while talking.
If you are shy or uncomfortable, have someone introduce you.
If you meet a celebrity, do not stare at her, and take a picture only with her permission, especially if she has a bodyguard !!
The presentations rules :
- Three criteria must be respected : the age, the sex and the social status.
- The youngest person is presented to the oldest, the man to the woman, an employee to his employer, the least “graded” to the most “graded”.
- The persons to reach out first are : the women, the hosts, older people and people of high social standing.
The presentation process :
- State your name first, then your second name: “Good evening, Umbert De Paris ». Never say : the name first, or Mr Umbert De Paris, or I am Umbert De Paris. Only use Mr or Mrs when you make an appointment, for example, at the hairdresser. You can say « Mr », « Sir », « Mrs » or « Madam » only for an older person.
- How should the handshake be ? Be careful, it reveals your personality ! Too strong : proof of self-confidence, but also of authoritarianism. Not strong enough : proof of indifference, of boredom. Too long : loving intention or strong affection. Strong enough, not too long : this is the proper way to do it. If you wear gloves, remove them, but a woman can keep them in the street. The man must propose to the woman to keep them. If you enter a room where there are many people : it is not necessary to shake hands, you must shake the host hand, and smile to all saying a general hello.
- Once the interlocutor knows your name, you can add “How are you? ». Never starts with “How are you?” which is reserved for intimates. You can say “I am delighted to meet you” or” I am delighted to know you “or” I am very happy to meet you “. Never say “delighted” or “I am happy” or “very happy.”. If you are introduced to a young boy or girl : “Hello” can be followed by the first name. This formula is warmer.
- If someone forget to introduce you, do not hesitate to introduce yourself by saying “Good evening, I think we have forgotten to introduce ourselves, my name is (First name and last name) ».
Exemple :
Diane introduces Umbert to her friends.
They first meet Emma in conversation with Charles. Diane says “Umbert, Iet me introduce you to Emma ».
Then they meet Charles : « Charles, this is Umbert ».
Umbert « How are you ? », shaking hands.
Kiss or no kiss :
- If you want to be introduced to a woman : bow a little and introduce yourself and wait for the woman to give her hand.
- Do not kiss the people you meet for the first time.
- Never force someone to kiss you.
- You can kiss if the person who is introduced to you bends over to kiss you.
- You can kiss a very young child.
- If a person blush while kissing him, act as if you have not noticed anything.
Umbert hopes that you’ve learned some tips to know How to introduce yourself according to the New Etiquette.
Depends on the country, greetings rituals may change, especially in Asia. Follow Umbert on his next adventures and weekends to learn about international New Etiquette advices.
3) The hand kissing (optional)
You can read this article about the hand-kissing : https://umbert-de-paris.com/hand-kissing-manners-etiquette/
How to welcome your guests to your dinner party at home ? Welcoming guests and the aperitif are an exiting moment for Umbert.
He loves to check if the beginning of the party is full of joy and great talking, which is a sign that the night will be a complete success.
What you must remember : always smile and great guest warmly, to make them confortable. This will assure a great party. Do the presentations properly no no ones feel disrespected. Keep the hand-kissing for a very formal ceremony.
How to become irresistible ? Download now the free eBook, chapter Behave (only available this month).
Bon voyage !
Umbert De Paris
7 Advices to choose the dishes and wine for your dinner party at home (video & podcast)
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After Thanksgiving, Umbert has now enough time to think about the holidays season.
He’s gonna invite his best friends and family for a dinner at home.
Umbert loves the holiday season. This is, with summer, the best time of the year. It is very relaxing, full of emotions and love.
He gives you 7 advices to choose the dishes and wine for your dinner party at home.
Benefits of this coaching :
- Best methodology to become irresistible
- Innovative technique to unleash your charisma
- Learn the new etiquette & manners
- A better lifestyle
« Real cooking is a form of art, a gift to share », Oprah Winfrey, American producer
“La vraie cuisine est une forme d’art, un cadeau à partager », Oprah Winfrey, productrice Américaine
In this article :
1) The aperitif
2) The entrance
3) The main course
4) The cheese / salad
5) The bread
6) Dessert
7) Wines
Think about your meal several days in advance to be relaxed.
Privilege a menu and seasonal, local and organic products.
Remember to consider the nationality and religion of the guests. You cannot impose foods proscribed by religion.
1) The aperitif
The aperitif is usually taken outside the table, in the living room or own the garden terrasse.
It’s a good idea to make a homemade cocktail, but also to offer a range of classic alcoholic and non-alcoholic beverages.
2) The entrance
The entrance must be light. It can be presented on plates when sitting at the table to avoid clutter.
3) The main course
The main course, fish or meat, must be light. Avoid some dishes that are too heavy or have a very particular taste.
4) The cheese / salad
Here is the ideal cheese plate:
- Hard dough (Gruyère, Comté, Beaufort).
- Soft dough (Camembert, Brie, Munster).
- Goat cheese.
- A marbled paste (Blue, Roquefort, to serve with a little butter).
The cheese must be served at home temperature.
If you serve salad and cheese at the same time, plan a large plate.
5) The bread
Cut it into large chunks and slanted.
Present two baskets on the table with a matching towel at the bottom.
6) The dessert
It is inversely proportional to the heaviness of the meal.
7) The wines
Here we give only a few basic tips.
Every wine has its type of glass.
During a meal consisting of several dishes, two kinds of wine are in principle offered from the lightest to the strongest.
Taste:
- White wines before the reds.
- Dry wines before mellowness.
- The youngest before the older ones.
The more meat is raised, the more powerful the wine. The finer it is, the lighter it is.
Decantation: it is linked to the grape, the vintage, the region and the wine grower.
If you are not a connoisseur, ask the wine merchant.
Champagne :
- Keep it cool 48 hours before opening.
- The younger it is, the more it must be drunk cold, in a 2/3 flute.
- Avoid blowing the cap.
- Connoisseurs turn the bottle and not the cap until the carbon dioxide escapes whistling.
With those easy 7 advices to choose the dishes and wine for your dinner party at home, Umbert can handle any invitation at home.
He loves having his friends and family at home.
In December in Paris, the City Of Lights, where the holiday season is magic !
What you should remember : just follow those 7 advices, and take it easy. The simplest the better. Always match the food with the wines, and don’t forget to create your home cocktail to impress your guest, it will be fun !
How to become irresistible ? Download now the free eBook, chapter Behave (only available this month).
Bon voyage !
Umbert De Paris
How to easily place your guests for your Thanksgiving party (Video & Podcast)
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Umbert enjoys receiving his friends in Paris, especially for the long weekend of Thanksgiving.
It is a privileged moment for him to relax with his family and friends.
The coming winter, the fireplace, the plaid on the sofa, a very cozy universe conducive to family and friendly relations.
Umbert explains you How to easily place your guests for your Thanksgiving party.
- Benefits of this coaching :
- Best methodology to become irresistible
- Innovative technique to unleash your charisma
- Learn the new etiquette & manners
- A better lifestyle
“The family is a big table and everyone around”, Laetitia Casta, French actress
In this article :
1) Table setting at home
2) Table setting for business
1) Table setting at home
The simplest to not be embarrassed at the last moment, is to provide cardboards with the names, placed in front of the water glass (or pebbles, shells, ribbons ….)
- The hostess and her husband:
In France, if the table is of 6, 10, 14 or 18 guests, the hostess and her husband are placed at each end of the table, face to face. If the table is of 8, 12, 16 guests, the hostess shifts one place to respect the alternation Male / Female.
In England and the USA: the householders are at each end of the table.
- The guest of honor:
For a woman: to the right of the master of the house.
For a man: to the right of the hostess.
- Couples of equal social importance (couple X and Y):
If couples are of equal importance: places of honor go to those who are invited for the first time, or to the oldest people, or the one whose function is the most important.
Couples are always separated except those who have been married for less than a year.
– Mr. X will be to the right of the hostess.
– Mr. Y will be on the left.
– Madame Y will be on the right of the master of the house.
– Ms. X will be on the left.
- Particularities:
If there is a single person, the alternation will not be able to play. Do not point it out.
Likewise if you are 13 at the table.
A religious personality always has the place to the right of the hostess.
If you are alone, do not put a single person in front of you … Avoid ambiguity.
2) Table setting for business
The most important guest sits to the right of the host, the second to the left.
If there are 2 people who invite, they sit at each end of the table, with the 3rd most important to his right.
How to easily place your guests for your Thanksgiving party? Respect these simple tips.
The table plan is made to encourage meetings and talkings between guests.
What to remember: position people in order of importance to those who invite. Place a cardboard in front of each glass to avoid any confusion at the last moment.
How to become irresistible ? Download now the free eBook, chapter Behave (only available this month).
Bon voyage !
Umbert De Paris
10 etiquette rules to follow for a Halloween in style (video & podcast)
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Umbert is very exited about Halloween coming on October 31st.
With his friends Diane and Georges, he will travel to Seattle.
Why ?
First because the US are the essence of Halloween. I mean almost the essence, because it was introduced by the Irish and the Scottish immigrants.
Then because the city of Seattle organizes a lot of amazing events the all night, such as big haunted houses.
Even if Halloween allows almost any costume, Umbert and his friends want to avoid vulgarity.
They will respect 10 etiquette rules to follow for a Halloween in style.
- Benefits of this coaching :
- Best methodology to become irresistible
- Innovative technique to unleash your charisma
- Learn the new etiquette & manners
- A better lifestyle
« Be afraid … Be very afraid », Ronnie, actress in The Fly
« Ayez peur … Ayez vraiment peur », Ronnie, actrice dans La Mouche
In this article :
1) Your costume
2) Don’t laugh at the others
3) Social networks
4) The death
5) Offense
6) The decoration
7) The party
8) The kids
9) Organic candies
10) Share
1) Your costume
Keep it chic, even if extravagant.
Extravagant doesn’t mean provocative.
2) Don’t laugh at the others
Some people have prepared their costume a long time ago for this special night.
Even if you don’t like them, never say it.
Plus remember that nobody has the true regarding what is nice or not.
In a startup world, all the ideas are welcome.
3) Social networks
Always remember that the people will take a lot of pictures that night.
So pay attention to your costume, but also to your attitude, especially if you drink a little bit too much.
4) The death
Some people may have lost someone recently, so avoid death in general.
I mean costume but also words like : « You gonna die ».
Fear is ok, but not death, even if Halloween is related to death.
5) Offenses
Never forget that you could offend someone with your costume, by making fun of a social group or race.
If you have just a small doubt, that’s because you have already crossed the red line.
6) The decoration
Try to keep it simple and nice.
Choose some colors that match, or the opposite.
For exemple you can go for a white-black-orange only, or multiple sparkling colors.
Avoid the white-black-orange only + 1 sparkly color.
Be careful to what could hurt such as fork.
7) The party
Even if the party is at its maximum, respect the neighborhood.
Some people are older and need to sleep earlier than you will.
8) The kids
The nicest thing about Halloween are probably the kids everywhere.
When walking, pay attention, you may not see them running everywhere.
Avoid outrageous costumes and decoration, their parents could be chocked.
Be ready to offer some organic candies.
9) Organic candies
You will offer a lot of candies that night, but you don’t want the kids to eat bad food.
Pick-up some organic ones, you will find them in high-end supermarkets or organic shops.
Be careful to allergies, so try to ask them before, especially for nuts.
10) Share
Halloween is about joy and happiness.
Share it with your family, friends and open yourself to the people.
Umbert and his friends will respect the 10 etiquette rules to follow for a Halloween in style.
They want to remember this party and time together forever.
That’s why they choose to travel from Paris to Seattle to have the best time ever.
What must be remember : keep it simple and chic, even if extravagant. Pay attention to the kids, and respect the others in general. Tipsy is good, but you don’t want to loose control of yourself.
How to become irresistible ? Download now the free eBook, chapter Behave (only available this month).
Bon voyage !
Umbert De Paris
How to set up a table in style at home for your best friends (video & podcast)
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Umbert has invited his best friends for a dinner in Paris.
His apartment has a huge living room with a nice dinner table for 12.
Umbert doesn’t want to show off tonight, he just wants his friends to be happy and confortable.
How to set up a table in style at home for your best friends ?
He knows that the table setting is important, not only because it shows its respect for his guests, but also because a nice decor and atmosphere makes the food and drinks better.
Simplicity or fantasy but everything must be perfect.
Benefits of this coaching :
- Best methodology to become irresistible
- Innovative technique to unleash your charisma
- Learn the new etiquette & manners
- A better lifestyle
“True cooking is an art form, a gift to share” Oprah Winfrey, American animator
“La vraie cuisine est une forme d’art, un cadeau à partager », Oprah Winfrey, animatrice américaine
In this article :
1) The tablecloth and towels
2) The plates
3) The cutlery
4) The glasses
5) The table decoration
1) The tablecloth and towels
Place a fleece under the tablecloth. It is more pleasant but be careful, it must not exceed the table.
Choose a tablecloth :
- Variegated with plain plates.
- Clear with dark plates and vice versa.
- In white damask with white porcelain and gold.
- On a round table, iron the folds of the tablecloth.
- On a rectangular table we keep the folds of the length parallels and we pass those of the width.
The towels are made of fabric matching the tablecloth, organic if possible :
- For lunch: it is placed on the plate, folded into a triangle, pointing downwards.
- For dinner: it is on the left of the plate folded in rectangle, touching the forks.
- It is never presented in a glass.
- If you are serving shellfish: plan for large towels to be removed afterwards.
- If a guest drops a towel, change it.
2) The plates
They are placed 2 cm from the edge of the table and 50 to 62 cm apart from each other.
Never put two plates flat on top of each other, except for the small plate of the entrance.
If you serve soup, the soup plate is placed on a flat plate.
You can place in the top left of the plate a small plate for bread, but it can be placed directly on the tablecloth.
Avoid presentation plates, it isn’t chic.
3) The cutlery
Cutlery is used from the outside to the inside, from top to bottom for cheese and dessert.
The knives are placed to the right of the plate, cutting edge towards the plate. If serving cutlery every time, no knife holder, otherwise it is placed on the right.
The forks are placed on the left. In France, the tips are placed on the table. Why ? This was done to show the coat of arms or the initials. In England and the USA, forks and spoons are placed on the other side.
If there is soup, the spoon is on the right side of the knife, curved side on the top. The soup spoons are placed on the rounded side.
The small cheese knife is placed at the top, blade to the right and cutting edge to the plate.
The small dessert fork is placed near the plate, the teeth to the right and down. The dessert cutlery are not placed at the beginning.
Fun ! Louis XIV imposed the use of the forks. Before we ate with the fingers or with a spoon.
“Thank you Umbert for the advices on the cutlery. Before it was a nightmare when I was invited to a fine dining restaurant in France. I never remembered how to use them”, Mark J.
4) The glasses
Before placing the glasses on the table, wipe them with a very thin white cloth. They need to be impeccable.
They rank in descending order to the right : Water – Red wine glass – White wine glass.
The not very full water glass is always served before going to the table.
In large dinner parties, there may be two glasses for the red wine : one for the wine that accompanies the meat, the other for the cheese.
Exception for the size, Champagne last right. Champagne heats up less quickly in flutes than in cuts.
The glass is held by the foot and not by the chalice to not heat the drink. Do not dismiss the little finger, it is now childish and unsuitable.
5) The table decoration
The flowers :
- They need to match the color of the tablecloth and the service used.
- On a white tablecloth, the flowers will be white or pastel.
- In the country: choose wildflowers or roses from the garden. No precious flowers.
- The perfume must be very light, so you can appreciate the food.
- The bouquets must be low to not disturb the guests, or in a long centerpiece.
- You can choose a central bouquet surrounded by two small ones.
The centerpiece :
- You can place it in cups, compotiers, basins, plate.
- You can choose flowers, or flowers floating on the water.
- Also a mixture of fruits and vegetables, add flowers if you like.
- Red foliage, because red is the perfect color for food.
- Floating candles give a nice light, in an intimate atmosphere.
Candles :
- Place them up to the faces or just above them.
- In candelabra, place long, thin candles, cream.
- Light them at the last moment.
An original idea : if the table is large, in addition to candlesticks and flowers, you can put characters or animals in silver or colored porcelain.
The menus :
- Put a menu between 2 covers.
- It has to be hand-written on white cardboard (surrounded by a gold border).
- It bears the date of the day.
- The dishes should have a simple name, this is more chic that long names.
- We write “salad” but not « cheese » because there is no good dinner without cheese.
Great tip : in the country you can write it on a postcard of the region or your property. For a wedding, anniversary or baptism, on the photo of the event.
This is How to set up a table in style at home for your best friends.
Umbert is sure that with this setting, his friends will start a great evening, have fun, and enjoy an amazing dinner.
What must be remembered : keep it simple and chic. Even for a little party, try to respect those rules. This not to show off, but you want your friends to have a wonderful experience when visiting.
How to become irresistible ? Download now the free eBook, chapter Behave (only available this month).
Bon voyage !
Umbert De Paris
