Did you know that Charles Aznavour was a king ? And still is … (vidéo & podcast)

To listen to the podcast click here :  http://media.blubrry.com/umbertdeparis/content.blubrry.com/umbertdeparis/kutMKCJogjj9mr41Pumg.mp3

 

 

At 94, Charles Aznavour died on the night of Sunday in France.

Charles Aznavour was loved in France of course, but also in Asia, the US and all over the world.

He has been on stage worldwide, where he sang some of his most famous songs in English.

He was a true gentleman all his life, starting as a son of the immigrantion, and become one of the most famous French singer.

Most of his songs were inspired by his Parisian anecdotes.

Did you know that Charles Aznavour was a king ? And still is …

Let’s check his most famous songs and gentleman values.

  • Benefits of this coaching :
  • Best methodology to become irresistible
  • Innovative technique to unleash your charisma
  • Learn the new etiquette & manners
  • A better lifestyle

 

« Take me Along the end of the earth », Charles Aznavour, French singer

« Emmenez-moi au bout de la terre », Charles Aznavour, chanteur Français

 

In this article :

1) Take me Along

2) Bohemia

3) As they say

5) I already saw myself

 

1) Take me Along

Charles Aznavour leaves some wonderful songs behind him. 

“Take me away” is an invitation to discover the other cultures and adapt to different civilizations. 

Don’t forget that he was born from an immigrant family in France, so he had to adapt to a foreign culture very young, but also learn about his Armenian family one.

He will get a star for this song on the famous Walk of Fame of Los Angeles.

Listen to the the song : 

2) Bohemia

“Bohemia” is the art of being happy.

On stage, he always sang it with a white handkerchief in his hand, a symbol of eternal and innocent youth. 

This song becomes the hymn of a generation in Paris.

Listen to the the song : 

3) As they say

“As they say” is an invitation to tolerance, especially for the gay community.

He was inspired by his driver’s life. This shows us how he took care of his siblings and the people in general.

This song was a controversy in France at that time.

But Charles Aznavour remained strong on his beliefs.

Listen to the the song : 

5) I already saw myself

« I already saw myself » is a song about his optimism.

As a son of an Armenian family, he dedicated his life to his career.

In this song, we can see the hope of a young guy.

A real lesson for all of us.

Listen to the the song : 

 

These values associated with socially adapted behaviors are those that Umbert likes and transmits in his blog.

Thank you Charles for your talent and what you have transmitted all over the world. 

Did you know that Charles Aznavour was a king ? And still is …

A gentleman is leaving, a king who guides us remains …

What must be remembered : try to listen his songs, most of them are translated. This will give you hope, tenacity and the satisfaction that brings achievement.

 

How to become irresistible ? Download now the free eBook, chapter Behave (only available this month).

Bon voyage !

Umbert De Paris

Show time !!! How to arrive at the party in style ! (Video & Podcast)

 

To listen to the podcast click here :  http://media.blubrry.com/umbertdeparis/content.blubrry.com/umbertdeparis/7ySczLsadw4bKfH4lNjK.mp3

 

 

Tonight Umbert is at Georges birthday at Hôtel De Crillon.

He loves this place, just renovated with so much elegance ! It is also one of the best spot for the pastries, and Umbert can’t wait to see the amazing birthday cake.

Georges is a real French aristocrat, so Umbert will pay attention to his manners, especially when arriving.

Show time !!! Umbert shows you how to arrive at the party in style !

Benefits of this coaching :

  • Best methodology to become irresistible
  • Innovative technique to unleash your charisma
  • Learn the new etiquette & manners
  • A better lifestyle

 

« Life is party. Dress for it », Audrey Hepburn, English actress

« La vie est une fête. Habillez-vous pour la circonstance », Audrey Hepburn, actrice anglaise

 

In this article :

1) Dress to impress

2) Bring a gift

 

1) Dress to impress

Don’t forget to check or ask for the dress code. Adapt your style to the evening.

You don’t want to look underdressed and ridiculous.

It also shows that you respect the hosts and the other guests.

But always wear confortable ones, the ones you like, so you won’t be or look under pressure.

If you have time, stop by the hairdresser and the barber, so you will look sharp and not neglected. I recommend the new spa and hairdresser at the Four Seasons Hotel George V in Paris for exemple. You will find more detail in my Best November Weekend Ever in Paris.

You can also read my article Don’t dress like a rock star, especially for a date, for more details.

Don’t forget that people may judge you on your outfit, especially in Asia and Europe.

2) Bring a gift

It is always recommended to bring a gift to the hosts.

For a dinner, bringing chocolates is very popular and easy. 

Wine or champagne as well, but you have to choose a very good one. Ask for advices in a wine shop if you don’t know. Ask them for something that nobody knows, from another country for exemple.

Avoid liquors if one of the hosts is a woman. 

« Thank you Umbert for the wine advices. With my wife Amy, we’ve been to a neighbor house warming party. I stopped by an amazing wine shop in L.A., and bought a bottle of a fantastic white wine from New Zealand. We were so lucky because the neighbors honeymoon was there. », Jay L.

Everyone can offer flowers: children, women, men. But if the rule is easy, nothing is more difficult than knowing how to apply it :

  • The choice of the flowers varies according to the personality of the hostess, the circumstances, the decor. 
  • There is a language of flowers. Ask for advices at the flower shop.
  • For a dinner or lunch, you can send them the day before, the morning or the next day to thank.
  • You must remain classic: avoid paper and plastic decoration.
  • Ask for a transparent packaging, it’s more chic.
  • The label is proscribed for potted flowers.
  • Waterproof paper bouquets with water are allowed.
  • Do not offer gladioli and carnations.
  • Offer by odd number except for the dozens.

If you know them very well, you can choose something more personal. For exemple I like books, so I always try to find one that matches their passions.

Umbert travels a lot, so he never forget to buy something original he can offer. People love his gifts because it also bring a part of the travel. It is also a good way to start the conversation with where he has been.

If they have children, bring them a little toy or so, they will really appreciate.

Don’t forget to add a personal card.

Show time !!! How to arrive at the party in style ?

In fact, try to stay natural, discreet and chic.

Umbert likes to arrive in silence, but with the right outfit and gift, so everybody will pay attention.

What must be remembered : arriving in style is an art. Avoid making noise or pretending. People like discreet and chic guests. The perfect gift, that the hosts will remember,  will make all the difference in next days.

 

How to become irresistible ? Download now the free eBook, chapter Behave (only available this month).

Bon voyage !

Umbert De Paris

Do people care when you’re late ? Here is what to say (Vidéo & Podcast)

 

To listen to the podcast click here :  http://media.blubrry.com/umbertdeparis/content.blubrry.com/umbertdeparis/IreBV9OxchAyFCUzwZjU.mp3

 

Yesterday night Umbert had a meeting with his best friend Diane at the Café de Flore.

Paris is so busy in November, everybody is in town working and having fun.

So he was late. 

Do people care when you’re late ? Here is what to say.

Benefits of this coaching :

  • Best methodology to become irresistible
  • Innovative technique to unleash your charisma
  • Learn the new etiquette & manners
  • A better lifestyle

 

« Being late is an act of violence », Mahatma Gandhi

« Etre en retard est un acte de violence », Mahatma Gandhi

 

  • In this article :

1) What to say when you are late

2) How to act when you are late

3) The next day

 

1) What to say when you are late

Being late is not a problem, as long as you contact the other person as soon as you can.

Do not forget to call ahead.

If you known it in advance, give a courteous version.

If it is last minute, give the real reason that will be valid.

Always give a real and logic reason. Lying would be the worst, because people always figure it out.

Exemple : Umbert is late to meet Diane. He calls her immediately, saying that the traffic is crazy in Paris, and he should be 15 to 30 late.

 

2) How to act when you are late

The best solution is to take it easy. Stress would accentuate the problem.

Here is a process :

  1. Even if you arrive angry, stay silent for a moment in front of the door and breathe calmly.
  2. If necessary, check your outfit, your hairstyle.
  3. Enter calmly.
  4. Follow the rules of the presentations according to what the hostess will do.
  5. If there are many people, a “good evening” discreet will be said to the crowd.
  6. Only the persons expressly presented by the hostess will be greeted.

Isn’t it easy ?

« I have tried this process many times, thank you Umbert for all the advices ! », François B.

 

3) The next day

The best is to send a card the next day to excuse yourself, especially if you were enable to attend.

Then, invite the people for something fun, so they will apologize and forget. 

 

Diane was so happy that Umbert called. Now she knows what to do : continue to shop the amazing dresses from the best designers in Saint -Germain, or watch the people going to the Paris Fashion Week to check their amazing outfits and get inspirations.

Umbert knows how to behave in all circumstances.

Do people care when you’re late ? Yes they do, so you have to know what to say.

What must be remembered : take it easy and follow the process, then everything will be fine. The worst would be to lie.

 

How to become irresistible ? Download now the free eBook, chapter Behave (only available this month).

Bon voyage !

Umbert De Paris

How to leave the party in style so they remember you ( Video & Podcast)

 

To listen to the podcast click here :  http://media.blubrry.com/umbertdeparis/content.blubrry.com/umbertdeparis/jC64b9fhcUrzZYv8oNdI.mp3

 

 

The diner is over, the coffee is served, you have to know when to leave according to the New Etiquette.

Entering the room and make an amazing impression is very important to be irresistible.

But leaving the party in style too, so they remember you.

 

« Paris is a party », Ernest Hemingway, writer

« Paris est une fête », Ernest Hemingway, écrivain

 

In this article :

1) General rules

2) Leaving the table

3) What to say

4) The next days

 

1) General rules 

When Umbert is invited, he always observes the other guests to know when he should leave.

So, when all the other guests have already left, he knows it’s time to thank the hosts and call a taxi back home.

French like parties that end at a late hour.  But when you see the host is tired, you know it’s time to leave.

He stays just if the hosts asks for it, especially if the conversation is passionated.

Sometimes Umbert also invites friends. He rents one of the amazing reception rooms of a Parisian palace. He likes The Ritz for example, it remembers him the 90’s and the crazy parties there. He wants his guests to enjoy their evening until the end, so he remains cheerful and warm, even if it lasts until the early morning … He then accompanies his guests and thanks them for coming. Isn’t it all the charm of Paris and the French way of life ?

2) Leaving the table

First watch for the first signs of trouble or fatigue in the guests or hosts. On weekdays, think of the hosts who work the next day … 

You cannot leave until the hostess (housewife) has stood up first, followed by the host (husband) and the other men who should push out the chairs of their neighbors.

Then place your unfolded towel on the right side of the plate.

Leave as discreetly as possible.

3) What to say

Do not leave without greeting or thanking the hosts.

A compliment to the hostess is always welcome.

Greet the other guests only if they get up too.

If it is very late, and there are still several guests, you can address a collective “Good night”, and warmly greet the hosts.

4) The next days

No matter the quality of the evening, you must thank the hostess the next day, by phone or with a thank you card.

It is imperative to invite the hosts in the next 1 to 2 months. 

If you met people you like, invite them for the first time too.

 

Paris and its parties, Ernest Hemingway is right : « Paris is a party ».

Now you know How to leave the party in style so they remember you.

The dandy-chic, the laughs, the musique … it’s always fun, and Umbert and his male friends like to go there to seduce the pretty girls. Always in style !

What must be remembered : the way you leave is as important as the way you enter a room. Do it in style, thank the hosts, make a compliment, leave discreetly saying a general « Good night » most of the time.

 

Quiz : Register to my blog to get regular Quiz and learn more about the New Etiquette.

You can post a comment or ask Umbert about your next weekend in Paris, and new etiquette advices, in the section below.

Sign in to download the 1st chapter of New Etiquette , and get the next vidéos, podcasts and articles.

Bon voyage !

Umbert De Paris

Thank you Dear ! Process on how to thank (Vidéo & Podcast)

 

Listen to the podcast click here :  http://media.blubrry.com/umbertdeparis/content.blubrry.com/umbertdeparis/TsMf4D15PmgFqFmKitHS.mp3

 

 

Following a wonderful evening at Diane’s, Umbert must thank her for her invitation.

Say « thank you » is part of the international savoir-vivre. It also helps to maintain cordial relationships. It is a form of respect.

The fact that you decline or accept an invitation is not the problem, but you have to thank for the invitation, that’s the most important.

Thank you Dear ! Here is a Process on how to thank

 

“Politeness is for the mind what grace is for the face”, Voltaire, French philosopher

« La politesse est pour l’esprit ce qu’est la grâce pour le visage », Voltaire, philosophe Français

 

In this article :

1) What are the different types of “Thank you”

2) Thank before the party

3) Thank during the party

4) After the party

5) How to decline

 

1) What are the different types of “Thank you”

The automatic “thank you”, for example at a shopkeeper. It’s the one you use automatically.

Thank you” says with his heart, to a friend or someone who is helping you.

The “thank you” for an invitation, that’s the one we are talking about.

The hypocrite or forced « thank you », try to avoid it, find a real excuse instead off playing.

 

2) Thank before the party

Answer as soon as possible to accept or refuse an invitation, in the 24 hours.

Answer through the same canal as the invitation.

So if it’s a card, answer with a card, if it’s online, answer online.

The card must be white, the ink color blue or black, stay neutral. Nevertheless, if you are a real artist, you can create something for the host.

Show that you are very happy to be invited.

Never asked if you can bring someone with you, unless it’s a friends party.

If you are on diet, that’s not a problem, just let the host know before. Same for allergies.

If you are a couple, don’t forget to mention the other person.

 

3) Thank during the party

Arrive 15 minutes after the official beginning of the party, and adapt you style to the dress code, it shows that you respect the host. Too early may disturb the host, too late is not respectful for the others.

Thank the host with a gift : chocolates for a diner, wine, flowers or something more personal if they are friends like a coffee table book.

If the host has children, bring something for the kids, the all family will appreciate.

You can send the gift before you arrive, bring it, or send it the next day.

Regarding the flowers, the best is to go in a nice flower shop, and ask some advices describing the host. Always stay neutral and chic. Add a thank you card.

After a dinner, leaving, thank your hosts for this wonderful evening. Make a compliment on the housekeeper’s attire, the dinner or the bouquets is always welcome.

For a particular moment such as a wedding or a baptism, things are more a protocole. You have to first thank with a card, then send a gift with another card.

Don’t make any gift if it is just a cocktail party. A thank you card will be enough.

 

4) After the party

Call your host the next day to thank, or send a handwritten « thank you » card. 

Avoid the email, it is less friendly.

If you were the host, thank the guests for coming. Say a big thank you for the flowers, wines or chocolates they offered.

You have 1 month to thank everybody if it’s a wedding or baptism.

 

5) How to decline

You can answer that you thank the host for the invitation, you are very happy to be invited, but unfortunately … Never lie (people always find out later when you do), find something logic.

Always decline with a written card if possible, or a call.

If you are a couple, don’t forget to mention the other person. You both decline.

 

Umbert is now eager to return to Paris, where every evening a new invitation to a fabulous party amuses him. 

The glamorous Paris, this city of glamorous parties amazes him every day.

Thank you Dear ! He will be able to use this Process on how to thank … more and more ..

What must be remembered : the most important is to thank in the 24 hours, never lie, use a written card if possible, and bring a gift.

 

Quiz : Register to my blog to get regular Quiz and learn more about the New Etiquette.

You can post a comment or ask Umbert about your next weekend in Paris, and new etiquette advices, in the section below.

Sign in to download the 1st chapter of New Etiquette , and get the next vidéos, podcasts and articles.

Bon voyage !

Umbert De Paris

Should we still do the hand-kissing in Paris, New York, London, Shangaï and Auckland ? (Vidéo & Podcast)

 

To listen to the podcast click here :  http://media.blubrry.com/umbertdeparis/content.blubrry.com/umbertdeparis/EJHo3PtJ1UTiUVLqSKFQ.mp3

 

“Ocean’s 8” shows us the “hand-kissing” ! Richard Armitage, allias Claude Becker, bow in front of Anne Hataway, allias Daphne Kluger, and makes her the “hand-kissing”.

Umbert is used to major international events, and he knows the MET Gala in New York, where the movie takes place.

He likes to watch pretty girls in evening dresses, all very originals.

But Should we still do the hand-kissing in Paris, New York, London, Shangaï and Auckland ?

 

« I am in favor of maintaining the French habit of hand-kissing; after all, you have to start somewhere », Sacha Guitry, French cineast

« Je suis en faveur du maintien de l’habitude française du baise-main; après tout il faut bien commencer quelque part », Sacha Guitry, metteur en scène Français

 

In this article :

1) When to do a hand-kissing

2) How to do a hand-kissing

 

1) When to do a hand-kissing

Nowdays, the hand-kissing is reserved to a conservative upper class or diplomats. 

It is also still used in countries like Malaysia, Bruneï or Indonesia. There it is a common way to greet elder people of both genders, primarily the closest relatives (both parents, grandparents, and uncles or aunts) and teachers.

The “hand-kissing” is chic, but requires courtesy, restraint and elegance.

It is never practiced in the street, or in a public place : cafe, restaurant, opera, cinema, beach, etc …

It must be avoided with foreigners who are not used to it, except those who used to the international etiquette.

During a reception, a man can only do a hand-kissing to the mistress of the house, and the elderly ladies.

Umbert specifies that it can only be practiced with married women.

It is not appropriate for a gloved hand, except the one of a dear friend.

 

2) How to do a hand-kissing

The technique :

1 The man must not raise the lady outstretched hand towards him. The lady gives her hand.

2 The man must bow a little, and touch the hand he gently takes.

3 He does not kiss the hand but touches it with his chin.

4 The kiss must be fast, brief.

Don’t forget to train with a friend, it should fun !

 

Umbert is looking forward to traveling again to these major international events.

New York often misses him, but Paris is more into his heart.

What must be remembered : just remember the technique, so when you go to an event where you see the others doing the hand-kissing, you will be able to do it.

 

Quiz : Register to my blog to get regular Quiz and learn more about the New Etiquette

 

You can post a comment or ask Umbert about your next weekend in Paris, and new etiquette advices, in the section below.

Sign in to download the 1st chapter of New Etiquette , and get the next vidéos, podcasts and articles.

Bon voyage !

Umbert De Paris

Methodology to politely excuse yourself, without bullshit (Vidéo & podcast)

 

To listen to the podcast click here : http://media.blubrry.com/umbertdeparis/content.blubrry.com/umbertdeparis/KIC5VHhnRm5ujlNrlER3.mp3

 

Umbert knows a lot of people in Paris, and often receives several invitations for an event on the same day.

This doesn’t bother him because, fortunately, he knows how to decline politely if necessary.

Now days, everybody tries to improve his business or career, so a lot of events are organized, and you may receive a lot of invitations.

In the same way as saying “thank you”, knowing how to apologize is an important aspect of the New Etiquette.

Some of your acquaintances may insist, even try to « close » ! 

That’s why knowing how to excuse yourself, even apologize, is very important so they won’t be offended.

 

« Let’s excuse as far as common sense allows it », Anne Baratin, French poet

« Tâchons d’excuser tant que le bon sens le permet », Anne Baratin, poète français

 

In this article :

1) Methodology on how to apologize

2) Declining an invitation

3) Everyday excuses

 

1) Methodology on how to apologize

  • 1 Apologize as soon as you can. The more the time passes, the less your apologies will be accepted.
  • 2 Prefer to do it face to face, otherwise use Skype or FaceTime. Avoid writing on social networks or text.
  • 3 Don’t blame the other person. You are trying to solve a relationship problem, so don’t start with a fight !
  • 4 Listen : carefully, you have to show empathy to be trusted. The other person should understand that you care.
  • 5 Validate : repeat the problem with your own words, to show that you understand the person concern. At this time you’ve just stop the drama.
  • 6 Apologize : tell the person that you are sorry if you did something wrong that has hurted him/her. Be authentic and sincere, it is very important. Never lie, she will figure out later anyway. You are responsible for what she feels.
  • 7 Silence : the person should tell you if she apologize or not. If she doesn’t, restart the process.
  • 8 Even if she accepts your apologies, real forgiveness may take time … But once done, the relationship should be stronger.

2) Declining an invitation

You can use the same process if you want to decline an invitation.

For exemple :

Umbert is invited next week, the same evening at Alexia for her birthday, and at Paul for a dinner with friends. 

He will go to Alexia and FaceTime Paul immediately to apologize : “Paul, I know you’ve done a lot of wrk to organize this party, unfortunately I won’t be available for your dinner and I regret it. ”

Silence …

Paul answers : « I understand Umbert, no worries, thank you for telling me right away, I hope that we’ll see each other soon . »

Umbert : « yes for sure, let me call you next week so we can organize a get together with some friends arriving from Mumbaï, that should be fun. »

If an invitation has been sent to you by email or mail, write a thank you card, and send it the next day.

3) Everyday excuses

Now that you know the process, train at home, so you can use it immediately, all the time.

Here is where it may be useful :

  • Umbert is late and jostling a lady in the street : “Madam, I’m so sorry, are you all right ? Is there anything I can do ? » Silence … 
  • Arriving late at the restaurant, he tells his friends “Please forgive me I’m late, I hope I haven’t waste you time ? Silence … Let’s enjoy this moment together” 
  • When Umbert asks a service to someone, for example when he asks his way, or an information to a salesperson, it is always necessary to start by saying “Good morning, I don’t want to disturb you, could you ….”

With this Methodology to politely excuse yourself, without bullshit, Umbert can organized is schedule as he wants, or as he can.

Being famous, and receiving a lot of invitations is nice, but not easy.

But having none of them would be worse.

Fortunately, Umbert knows that he can count on his many acquaintances and invitations to entertain himself.

He is incredibly happy to meet them during his monthly Weekends in Paris.

 

What must be remembered : do apologize as soon as you can, understand the other and be sincere, then you’ll be fine.

 

Quiz : Register to my blog to get regular Quiz and learn more about the New Etiquette

 

You can post a comment or ask Umbert about your next weekend in Paris, and new etiquette advices, in the section below.

Sign in to download the 1st chapter of New Etiquette , and get the next vidéos, podcasts and articles.

Bon voyage !

Umbert De Paris

How to behave in the street, especially when travelling ! (Video & Podcast)

 

To listen to the podcast click here : http://media.blubrry.com/umbertdeparis/content.blubrry.com/umbertdeparis/hR7kccugkLaGAgeaRyYJ.mp3

 

Umbert loves to wander around the city during his monthly weekends, or at night.

He knows that the new etiquette and good manners demands to be always discreet and not to disturb others, even in the street and in all circumstances.

He also pays attention to respect the people and their country when travelling.

If someone asks him his way, he always responds kindly, or apologizes if he doesn’t know the answer.

When a car driver gives him the passage, he thankfully nodded politely.

 

« Courtesy is the main part of the etiquette, it is a kind of charm by which one is loved by everyone » Jacques Deval, artist and filmmaker

« La courtoisie est la partie principale du savoir-vivre, c’est une espèce de charme par où l’on se fait aimer de tout le monde », Jacques Deval artiste et cinéaste

 

In this article :

1) Public transportation

2) When shopping

3) Rainy days

4) The priorities, especially with women

5) With your group of friends

6) The cleanliness

 

1) Public transportation

Always stay behind the line and let the people exist first, especially in the subway, taxi or bus stations.

Let your seat to older persons, women or persons with disabilities, if the other seats are taken.

Put your bags under your knees, they don’t need a seat.

It is not convenient to eat or unpack food, the smell will disturb the other passengers.

Please don’t talk loudly on the phone, wait that you will be arrived.

Always be nice with the driver in buses, or any employee from the public transportation company, they try to make their job the best they can. Umbert always says « good morning » or « have a nice day » to the driver.

 

2) When shopping

Umbert loves to shop around and discover new things and trends.

When he goes to a shop, if there is a push door to open, he always hold it if someone wants to enter after him or exit.

When it is a pull door, don’t forget to hold the door first, to let the other enter or exit.

When the elevator arrives, let the people exit first, then enter and let some space for others. This is the best way to not waste your and others time.

In the escalator stay on the right side so the people in a hurry can walk fast on the left side. People, especially in the cities are working, so if you respect them, they will also respect the tourists.

 

3) Rainy days

They are part of the charm of Paris and North Europe in general.

These days are often synonymous with congested sidewalks, because many streets in old cities are narrow. Do not forget that this is what makes them historic and charming.

Umbert pays attention not to jostle someone by walking too fast, and not to disturb everyone with his umbrella.

He always lowers his umbrella to let a woman pass.

A woman, meanwhile, will lower her umbrella to let an older woman pass.

Don’t forget that many work and are often in a hurry. They should therefore be given priority.

On the opposite, if you are in a hurry, do not “stick” the person in front.

When Umbert inadvertently hustles someone, even if he tries to never do, he immediately apologizes.

 

4) The priorities, especially with women

Umbert is a gallant man, when he sees a woman walking on the same sidewalk, he leaves her the side along the wall, proof that he takes care of her safety.

He always leave room for a woman on public transportation.

A man does not turn around and look at a woman. It’s a proof of respect.

If he meets a married person with another man, he pretends not to have seen them. He lets the woman come to him, if she wishes.

If a person arrives with a stroller, he moves to let her pass.

If he meets an elderly person, he takes a step aside to let her pass.

 

5) With your group of friends

Umbert knows a lot of people in Paris, and he often meets friends in his favorite neighborhoods.

When discussing, they let the passage free, they don’t want to plug the sidewalk, even if the conversation is very lively.

The group also pay attention not to talk or laugh too loud, they don’t want to disturb people who live next door, especially at night.

 

6) The cleanliness

An effort must be made by everyone to respect the environment. 

Residents who love their city try to keep it clean, but it’s not always easy.

Umbert, in an ecological approach, recalls that we should not throw anything randomly and on the sidewalks, there is always a trash nearby.

He also tries to buy natural and organic products, when possible, to preserve the all planet. This is very important for the humanity future.

 

Living in society is sometimes difficult ! It is necessary to know how to make efforts even if the others do not.

This is How to behave in the street, especially when travelling !

It is very important that we all respect the people, their culture and the environment to have a great life and future.

What you should remember : these rules contribute to the savoir-vivre with others, and to the well-being of all, wherever you are.

 

Quiz : Register to my blog to get regular Quiz and learn more about the New Etiquette.

 

You can post a comment or ask Umbert about your next weekend in Paris, and new etiquette advices, in the section below.

Sign in to download the 1st chapter of New Etiquette , and get the next vidéos, podcasts and articles.

Bon voyage !

Umbert De Paris

How to introduce yourself according to the New Etiquette (Vidéo & Podcast)

 

To listen to the podcast click here : https://umbert-de-paris.com/wp-content/uploads/2018/08/EVAiaOoMkSeqhxRyXGuR.mp3

 

 

Umbert is invited to a party with his friend Diane in a sumptuous Haussmann apartment in Paris.

Diane friends know the good manners and how to behave.

To present oneself is the first act of interaction with the other guests.

The first impression being the one that counts the most, Umbert reminds you of the basic rules of the New Etiquette and manners.

 

“Politeness is a mark of respect : nature gives it, education increases it », Louis-Philippe de Ségur, diplomat 

“La politesse est une marque de respect : la nature la donne, l’éducation l’augmente”, Louis-Philippe de Ségur, diplomate 

 

In this article : 

1) General rules

2) The presentations rules

3) The presentation process

4) Kiss or no kiss

 

1) General rules to introduce yourself according to the New Etiquette

Immediately giving the best self-image is a difficult art, so Umbert offers you those general advices that are easy to follow anywhere.

  • First you have to stand-up to meet the guests.
  • Keep your arms loosely at your side, ready to shake hands.
  • Smile to give the image of a person at ease, happy to know those that are presented to you.
  • Do maintain eye contact to prove your sincerity and confidence, do not keep your sunglasses if you are outside.
  • Speak clearly to avoid having the caller repeat, especially your name, so never chew gum, or eat while talking.

If you are shy or uncomfortable, have someone introduce you.

If you meet a celebrity, do not stare at her, and take a picture only with her permission, especially if she has a bodyguard !!

 

2) The presentations rules to introduce yourself according to the New Etiquette

  • Three criteria must be respected : the age, the sex and the social status.
  • The youngest person is presented to the oldest
  • The man to the woman
  • An employee to his employer
  • The least “graded” to the most “graded”

 

  • The persons to reach out first are :
  • The women
  • The hosts
  • Older people
  • People of high social standing

 

3) The presentation process to introduce yourself according to the New Etiquette

  • State your name first, then your second name: “Good evening, Umbert De Paris ». Never say : the name first, or Mr Umbert De Paris, or I am Umbert De Paris. Only use Mr or Mrs when you make an appointment, for example, at the hairdresser.
  • You can say « Mr », « Sir », « Mrs » or « Madam » only for an older person.
  • How should the handshake be ? Be careful, it reveals your personality !
  • Too strong : proof of self-confidence, but also of authoritarianism
  • Not strong enough : proof of indifference, of boredom
  • Too long : loving intention or strong affection 
  • Strong enough, not too long : this is the proper way to do it
  • If you wear gloves, remove them, but a woman can keep them in the street. The man must propose to the woman to keep them.
  • If you enter a room where there are many people : it is not necessary to shake hands, you must shake the host hand, and smile to all saying a general hello

 

  • Once the interlocutor knows your name, you can add “How are you? ». Never starts with “How are you?” which is reserved for intimates. 
  • You can say “I am delighted to meet you” or” I am delighted to know you “or” I am very happy to meet you “. Never say “delighted” or “I am happy” or “very happy.” 
  • If you are introduced to a young boy or girl : “Hello” can be followed by the first name. This formula is warmer.
  • If someone forget to introduce you, do not hesitate to introduce yourself by saying “Good evening, I think we have forgotten to introduce ourselves, my name is (First name and last name) ».

Exemple : 

Diane introduces Umbert to her friends. 

They first meet Emma in conversation with Charles. Diane says “Umbert, ​​Iet me introduce you to Emma ».

“Emma, may I introduce you to Umbert ?”

Then they meet Charles :  « Charles, this is Umbert ».

Umbert « How are you ? », shaking hands

 

4) Kiss or no kiss

  • If you want to be introduced to a woman :
  • Bow a little and introduce yourself
  • Wait for the woman to give her hand
  • Do not kiss the people you meet for the first time.
  • Never force someone to kiss you.
  • You can kiss if the person who is introduced to you bends over to kiss you
  • You can kiss a very young child
  • If a person blush while kissing him, act as if you have not noticed anything.

Umbert hopes that you’ve learned some tips to know How to introduce yourself according to the New Etiquette.

Depends on the country, greetings rituals may change, especially in Asia. Follow Umbert on his next adventures and weekends to learn about international New Etiquette advices.

 

What must be remembered : Always stay yourself, ready to meet and greet people. Role play with a friend to remember those rules which are very easy once known.

 

Quiz : Register to my blog to get regular Quiz and learn more about the New Etiquette.

 

You can post a comment or ask Umbert about your next weekend in Paris, and new etiquette advices, in the section below.

Sign in to download the 1st chapter of New Etiquette , and get the next vidéos, podcasts and articles.

Bon voyage !

Umbert De Paris