How to offer the most beautiful flowers (video & podcast)

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Umbert is invited at his best friend Victoria. He always bring a very chic bouquet.

Everyone can offer flowers: children, women, men.

But if the rule is easy, nothing is more difficult than knowing how to apply it.

Umbert is gonna help you about How to offer the most beautiful flowers.

Benefits of this coaching :

  • Best methodology to become irresistible
  • Innovative technique to unleash your charisma
  • Learn the new etiquette & manners
  • A better lifestyle

« The flowers of spring are the dreams of winter, told, in the morning, at the table of angels », Gibran Khalil Gibran, poet

« Les fleurs du printemps sont les rêves de l’hiver, racontés, le matin, à la table des anges », Gibran Khalil Gibran, poètes

In this article :

1) Who are flowers offered to?

2) How to offer them?

3) The choice of flowers

1) Who are flowers offered to?

A child can offer some flowers to all the women of his family (do not forget the grandmother). Rarely to a teacher.

A woman offers flowers to married or single women. But a girl can give it to her father or one of her parents. Also an employee at her employer.

A man to a girl, preferably by handing them himself. He can also send them to a single or to a married woman. A son to his father. An employee to his female employer.

2) How to offer them?

Either send them.

Either bring them yourself.

It depends on how you relation with the other is. If you bring them you will seem closer to the other.

For a dinner or lunch, you can send them the day before, the morning or the next day to thank. Exception: for a cocktail we bring neither flowers nor chocolates but a word written the next day to thank.

3) The choice of flowers

The choice varies according to the personality of the hostess, the circumstances, the decor.

We must remain classic: avoid paper and plastic decoration.

Ask for a transparent packaging, it’s more chic.

The label is proscribed for potted flowers.

Waterproof paper bouquets with water are allowed.

Do not offer gladioli and carnations.

Offer by odd number except for the dozens.

Staple a business card to the bouquet.

There is a language of flowers. The best is to ask the florist for advices.

Here are some easy rules to follow if you want to say chic, but offer the most beautiful flowers.

Umbert is famous for always bringing the best ones.

He chooses his flowers in the best flower shops of Paris. They are some of the best in the world, always very chic.

What you must remember : always keep it classic and chic. Follow the seller advices  regarding the langage of flowers, and don’t forget to staple a card to the bouquet.

How to become irresistible ? Download now the free eBook, chapter Behave (only available this month).

Bon voyage !

Umbert De Paris

Don’t go to the restaurant on a 1st date ! Try to find the Phantom of the Opera … (Vidéo & podcast)


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Today Umbert advises his friend Alexis, visiting Paris from Montecito in California, about dating.

Alexis thinks that French girls are tough regarding the dates, that’s why he looks for any original ideas.

The 2 friends think that the more original the place will be, the better chances Alexis will have.

They don’t want to look like random guys going in a random restaurant. 

They want something new, unexpected, creating a surprise them so the girl will have a crush on Alexis

That’s why Umbert advices Alexis to not go to the restaurant on a 1st date ! Try to find the Phantom of the Opera ….


« Paris is very small for those who love each other with such great love. », Jacques Prévert, French writter

« Paris est tout petit pour ceux qui s’aiment d’un aussi grand amour. » Jacques Prévert, écrivain Français


In this article :

1) Basic rules for a date

2) The restaurant

3) The cocktail or wine bar

4) Everything else is the best ! 


1) Basic rules for a date 

The first appointment should be in a neutral place, not late at night. Never at ones home.

Choose a refined place, quiet to talk.

The choice of the place is difficult because it is also very related to the habits of the protagonists and their intellectual level.

Try to find something close to where both of you live. You don’t want to have time for a lot of hesitations on your way home.

Avoid places where your friends are, or where you know everybody. Your princess wants the all attention. You want to be as natural as possible, and you won’t be if your friends or acquaintances are around.

If you haven’t met already, remember to mention a distinctive sign so you will recognize each other (color of your clothes for exemple)


2) The restaurant

This is one of the most common idea.

If you choose this one, try to find something original and chic.

You can choose a place with an all new experience. For exemple an Indian restaurant with a Bollywood decoration, and a very friendly staff. 

Another idea would be an ice restaurant, build with ice. 

The goal is to surprise her, and this place will be the topic to start the discussion.

Always stay with chic places, even if they are specials.

Fine dining are very old school, unless they organise a special and fun event. For exemple an oysters and champagne evening, or a thematic party.

A woman will always be flattered to be invited to a fine dining, but Umbert would keep this option for the second time. It will improve again the surprise effect, and also reassure her.

Don’t forget to check my article Chronology on how to behave at the restaurant like a gentleman, and respect the New Etiquette (Video & Podcast) before going to the restaurant.


3) The cocktail or wine bar

Having a drink in a wine or cocktail bar, then dine elsewhere is a very good option.

At least, if something goes wrong, you’ll be on time to cancel the restaurant.

Choose an intimate place, with beautiful lights, perfect for the conversation. The candles highlight women, and make them feel confortable.

Avoid loud music and too much noise in general, it will stress you.


4) Everything else is the best !

Umbert likes to go for a picnic, in a calm and beautiful place. Women never expect you to organize such a thing. It is also a chic idea, that shows that you don’t want to show off, but are real, simple and sincere.

An other option that always work is to travel somewhere for the night. This means that you will have booked the tickets or the place before, but this is very exiting and you will have plenty of things to talk about regarding this short trip. If you are in Paris try some chic destinations like Deauville, Dinan or Biarritz on the coast. If you are in New York, the Bahamas for the night always works !

If she likes sport or culture, or both which is better, try to find an amazing event that you can do together. For exemple the escape game Inside Opera where you have to find the Phantom of the Opera, in the real Opera garner. This is fun, chic and amazing !


Umbert is sure that Alexis, who works in the movie industry in Los Angeles, will find great ideas. The French girls will have a crush on him for sure !

Now, dear Alexis, you have to pay the bill ! 

Love and romance are at every corner in Paris.

And Paris is a city where you can plan and imagine whatever original idea you want, so be creative … and she will kiss you !

Before going out on a date, read my article How to be a winner at the first date (Podcast & vidéo).


What must be remembered : never show off on a first date, be sincere, simple, chic and original. Spend time to find a very good spot to be a winner.


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How to be a winner at the first date (Podcast & vidéo)


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Umbert’s friend Alexandre looks for a fiancée and asks for advices on How to be a winner at the first date if he meets a pretty girl, and asks her for a date. 

Umbert is a man to whom his friends like to confess. Politeness and friendship have a rule : never tell another person the confidences made by a friend.

Today he meets Alexandre at the Café de Flore in Paris.

Umbert explains that pretty girls are difficult to seduce, and they pay attention to the etiquette and good manners, so it is important to follow his advices.

After meeting the “right person”, here is the second crucial moment : the date.

It is also the second difficult part, because everything will have to be in fineness and elegance.


“You’ll never have a second chance to make a good impression,” David Swanson

« Vous n’aurez jamais une seconde chance de faire une bonne impression », David Swanson


In this article :

1) General rules for a date

2) The date at the restaurant 

3) The conversation during the date


1) General rules for a date

Simplicity is key. Be yourself, lying is a waste of time, she will discover who you really are anyway.

The smile is the number one asset of seduction. Be friendly and charming.

The one who makes a woman laugh will be ahead of the one who floods her with to many compliments.

Have physical, moral and intellectual elegance.

Highlight your qualities. For example, your success in an industry or a sport. There may be other contenders, so put all the chances on your side. Whether you are beautiful, intelligent, rich or the opposite, girls like success. Do not show off with your money, car or house. Make yourself appreciate for yourself, it’s important for the future.

Before the appointment, you can think of a few topics. A man who does not know what to say will have no chance to please.

Avoid at all costs the vulgarity, the “heaviness” in the behavior, and don’t do too much, or say too much.

In all cases avoid personal problems, excessive development, and focus on the interest of the other.

I you are open, balanced, attentive, confident, cheerful …. !! Then everything will be fine.

2) The date at the restaurant

  1. Arrive in advance . Never be late to the first appointment, it would be a huge and gross mistake. If it happens contact her as soon as possible to let her know, she will really appreciate. And don’t try the « sorry I’m so busy … », she wants you to be busy by her !  
  2. Personal items shouldn’t be on the table (sunglasses, phone, keys etc …). This is a table for you and her, not yours.
  3. Turn off your phone !
  4. Get up when the woman arrives to greet her.
  5. If you’ve never met and are disappointed : do not show it, you will not see again.
  6. Find a sentence to welcome her, delicate, kind without doing too much. A compliment on her outfit and elegance will always be appreciated. A little shyness does not hurt or at least a little reserve.
  7. Never sit down first. The bench is always reserved for ladies. If there are only chairs, think of pulling the woman’s chair, unless the butler does it.
  8. When you sit down to table, immediately put your towel on your legs, without waiting for the dish.
  9. Start the conversation and look her eyes to talk.
  10. It is the man who places the order at the Maître d’Hotel and chooses the wines, after having asked the woman if his choice suits her. Do not look at the neighbors’ plate at another table to make your choice.
  11. The man serves the drink to the woman who accompanies him, unless the butler does it.
  12. Before starting to taste the dishes, wait until she is served.
  13. If you have to leave the table for a few minutes, excuse yourself, you don’t have to say why. Place the napkin on your chair (USA only), or on the left side of the plate (Europe).
  14. If someone in the restaurant recognizes you and stop by for a short talk, just stand up for a few minutes.
  15. At the end, the man asks for the bill, and pay it discreetly. If there are errors, do not discuss them in front of her.
  16. On your way out thank the staff and compliment the manager. She will be sensitive to your politeness.

You can also read my article Chronology on how to behave at the restaurant like a gentleman, and respect the New Etiquette.

If all went well, ask for another date more original … You will find a good idea … !

You can take inspiration from Umbert’s monthly weekends, where you will find the latest perfect spots.

3) The conversation during the date

  • The Dos :

Ask her about her tastes, her life. (be careful, not on the intimate things).

Listen. Women love being listened to. Be attentive so she feels confident.If she speaks about her problems, listen, advise, but at least you will not have started. Give her always right … only for the first date of course !

Do not let the silence settle. It’s a disaster. Know how to re-engage the conversation with simple topics : news, travel. Be careful : no politics or religion ! No subject that make people arguing strongly.

Accept her opinions and speak calmly.

Unveil yourself, but not too much. Mysterious people always create curiosity in others, and always attract …

  • The Don’ts :

No drama, neither positive nor negative.

Do not talk about all your life, or do it briefly, without starting from childhood. Only mention happy and positive moments.

Do not flood the conversation of stories about your work, and especially with technical terms. Some funny anecdotes will be much more appreciated.

Do not show off with your culture, especially if your guest is not an intellectual.

Do not complain about everything (climate, cost of living, car breakdown, noisy neighbors, etc …).

Do not immediately talk about all the problems in your life (breaks, illness, loss of work, difficult children …). You would give a lamentable first image.


Alexander now feels reassured by Umbert’s advices on How to be a winner at the first date. They respect the New etiquette and good manners.

Umbert wishes Alexandre good luck, and offers to see him again if he needs further advices.

What should be remembered : feel confident and keep in mind that simplicity and smile are key. Never lie, she will find out.


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Bon voyage !

Umbert De Paris