Umbert enjoys receiving his friends in Paris, especially for the long weekend of Thanksgiving.
It is a privileged moment for him to relax with his family and friends.
The coming winter, the fireplace, the plaid on the sofa, a very cozy universe conducive to family and friendly relations.
Umbert explains you How to easily place your guests for your Thanksgiving party.
Benefits of this coaching :
Best methodology to become irresistible
Innovative technique to unleash your charisma
Learn the new etiquette & manners
A better lifestyle
“The family is a big table and everyone around”, Laetitia Casta, French actress
In this article :
1) Table setting at home
2) Table setting for business
1) Table setting at home
The simplest to not be embarrassed at the last moment, is to provide cardboards with the names, placed in front of the water glass (or pebbles, shells, ribbons ….)
The hostess and her husband:
In France, if the table is of 6, 10, 14 or 18 guests, the hostess and her husband are placed at each end of the table, face to face. If the table is of 8, 12, 16 guests, the hostess shifts one place to respect the alternation Male / Female.
In England and the USA: the householders are at each end of the table.
The guest of honor:
For a woman: to the right of the master of the house.
For a man: to the right of the hostess.
Couples of equal social importance (couple X and Y):
If couples are of equal importance: places of honor go to those who are invited for the first time, or to the oldest people, or the one whose function is the most important.
Couples are always separated except those who have been married for less than a year.
– Mr. X will be to the right of the hostess.
– Mr. Y will be on the left.
– Madame Y will be on the right of the master of the house.
– Ms. X will be on the left.
Particularities:
If there is a single person, the alternation will not be able to play. Do not point it out.
Likewise if you are 13 at the table.
A religious personality always has the place to the right of the hostess.
If you are alone, do not put a single person in front of you … Avoid ambiguity.
2) Table setting for business
The most important guest sits to the right of the host, the second to the left.
If there are 2 people who invite, they sit at each end of the table, with the 3rd most important to his right.
How to easily place your guests for your Thanksgiving party? Respect these simple tips.
The table plan is made to encourage meetings and talkings between guests.
What to remember: position people in order of importance to those who invite. Place a cardboard in front of each glass to avoid any confusion at the last moment.
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Umbert is very exited about Halloween coming on October 31st.
With his friends Diane and Georges, he will travel to Seattle.
Why ?
First because the US are the essence of Halloween. I mean almost the essence, because it was introduced by the Irish and the Scottish immigrants.
Then because the city of Seattle organizes a lot of amazing events the all night, such as big haunted houses.
Even if Halloween allows almost any costume, Umbert and his friends want to avoid vulgarity.
They will respect 10 etiquette rules to follow for a Halloween in style.
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Best methodology to become irresistible
Innovative technique to unleash your charisma
Learn the new etiquette & manners
A better lifestyle
« Be afraid … Be very afraid », Ronnie, actress in The Fly
« Ayez peur … Ayez vraiment peur », Ronnie, actrice dans La Mouche
In this article :
1) Your costume
2) Don’t laugh at the others
3) Social networks
4) The death
5) Offense
6) The decoration
7) The party
8) The kids
9) Organic candies
10) Share
1) Your costume
Keep it chic, even if extravagant.
Extravagant doesn’t mean provocative.
2) Don’t laugh at the others
Some people have prepared their costume a long time ago for this special night.
Even if you don’t like them, never say it.
Plus remember that nobody has the true regarding what is nice or not.
In a startup world, all the ideas are welcome.
3) Social networks
Always remember that the people will take a lot of pictures that night.
So pay attention to your costume, but also to your attitude, especially if you drink a little bit too much.
4) The death
Some people may have lost someone recently, so avoid death in general.
I mean costume but also words like : « You gonna die ».
Fear is ok, but not death, even if Halloween is related to death.
5) Offenses
Never forget that you could offend someone with your costume, by making fun of a social group or race.
If you have just a small doubt, that’s because you have already crossed the red line.
6) The decoration
Try to keep it simple and nice.
Choose some colors that match, or the opposite.
For exemple you can go for a white-black-orange only, or multiple sparkling colors.
Avoid the white-black-orange only + 1 sparkly color.
Be careful to what could hurt such as fork.
7) The party
Even if the party is at its maximum, respect the neighborhood.
Some people are older and need to sleep earlier than you will.
8) The kids
The nicest thing about Halloween are probably the kids everywhere.
When walking, pay attention, you may not see them running everywhere.
Avoid outrageous costumes and decoration, their parents could be chocked.
Be ready to offer some organic candies.
9) Organic candies
You will offer a lot of candies that night, but you don’t want the kids to eat bad food.
Pick-up some organic ones, you will find them in high-end supermarkets or organic shops.
Be careful to allergies, so try to ask them before, especially for nuts.
10) Share
Halloween is about joy and happiness.
Share it with your family, friends and open yourself to the people.
Umbert and his friends will respect the 10 etiquette rules to follow for a Halloween in style.
They want to remember this party and time together forever.
That’s why they choose to travel from Paris to Seattle to have the best time ever.
What must be remember : keep it simple and chic, even if extravagant. Pay attention to the kids, and respect the others in general. Tipsy is good, but you don’t want to loose control of yourself.
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Umbert has invited his best friends for a dinner in Paris.
His apartment has a huge living room with a nice dinner table for 12.
Umbert doesn’t want to show off tonight, he just wants his friends to be happy and confortable.
How to set up a table in style at home for your best friends ?
He knows that the table setting is important, not only because it shows its respect for his guests, but also because a nice decor and atmosphere makes the food and drinks better.
Simplicity or fantasy but everything must be perfect.
Benefits of this coaching :
Best methodology to become irresistible
Innovative technique to unleash your charisma
Learn the new etiquette & manners
A better lifestyle
“True cooking is an art form, a gift to share” Oprah Winfrey, American animator
“La vraie cuisine est une forme d’art, un cadeau à partager », Oprah Winfrey, animatrice américaine
In this article :
1) The tablecloth and towels
2) The plates
3) The cutlery
4) The glasses
5) The table decoration
1) The tablecloth and towels
Place a fleece under the tablecloth. It is more pleasant but be careful, it must not exceed the table.
Choose a tablecloth :
Variegated with plain plates.
Clear with dark plates and vice versa.
In white damask with white porcelain and gold.
On a round table, iron the folds of the tablecloth.
On a rectangular table we keep the folds of the length parallels and we pass those of the width.
The towels are made of fabric matching the tablecloth, organic if possible :
For lunch: it is placed on the plate, folded into a triangle, pointing downwards.
For dinner: it is on the left of the plate folded in rectangle, touching the forks.
It is never presented in a glass.
If you are serving shellfish: plan for large towels to be removed afterwards.
If a guest drops a towel, change it.
2) The plates
They are placed 2 cm from the edge of the table and 50 to 62 cm apart from each other.
Never put two plates flat on top of each other, except for the small plate of the entrance.
If you serve soup, the soup plate is placed on a flat plate.
You can place in the top left of the plate a small plate for bread, but it can be placed directly on the tablecloth.
Avoid presentation plates, it isn’t chic.
3) The cutlery
Cutlery is used from the outside to the inside, from top to bottom for cheese and dessert.
The knives are placed to the right of the plate, cutting edge towards the plate. If serving cutlery every time, no knife holder, otherwise it is placed on the right.
The forks are placed on the left. In France, the tips are placed on the table. Why ? This was done to show the coat of arms or the initials. In England and the USA, forks and spoons are placed on the other side.
If there is soup, the spoon is on the right side of the knife, curved side on the top. The soup spoons are placed on the rounded side.
The small cheese knife is placed at the top, blade to the right and cutting edge to the plate.
The small dessert fork is placed near the plate, the teeth to the right and down. The dessert cutlery are not placed at the beginning.
Fun ! Louis XIV imposed the use of the forks. Before we ate with the fingers or with a spoon.
“Thank you Umbert for the advices on the cutlery. Before it was a nightmare when I was invited to a fine dining restaurant in France. I never remembered how to use them”, Mark J.
4) The glasses
Before placing the glasses on the table, wipe them with a very thin white cloth. They need to be impeccable.
They rank in descending order to the right : Water – Red wine glass – White wine glass.
The not very full water glass is always served before going to the table.
In large dinner parties, there may be two glasses for the red wine : one for the wine that accompanies the meat, the other for the cheese.
Exception for the size, Champagne last right. Champagne heats up less quickly in flutes than in cuts.
The glass is held by the foot and not by the chalice to not heat the drink. Do not dismiss the little finger, it is now childish and unsuitable.
5) The table decoration
The flowers :
They need to match the color of the tablecloth and the service used.
On a white tablecloth, the flowers will be white or pastel.
In the country: choose wildflowers or roses from the garden. No precious flowers.
The perfume must be very light, so you can appreciate the food.
The bouquets must be low to not disturb the guests, or in a long centerpiece.
You can choose a central bouquet surrounded by two small ones.
Thecenterpiece :
You can place it in cups, compotiers, basins, plate.
You can choose flowers, or flowers floating on the water.
Also a mixture of fruits and vegetables, add flowers if you like.
Red foliage, because red is the perfect color for food.
Floating candles give a nice light, in an intimate atmosphere.
Candles :
Place them up to the faces or just above them.
In candelabra, place long, thin candles, cream.
Light them at the last moment.
An original idea : if the table is large, in addition to candlesticks and flowers, you can put characters or animals in silver or colored porcelain.
The menus :
Put a menu between 2 covers.
It has to be hand-written on white cardboard (surrounded by a gold border).
It bears the date of the day.
The dishes should have a simple name, this is more chic that long names.
We write “salad” but not « cheese » because there is no good dinner without cheese.
Great tip : in the country you can write it on a postcard of the region or your property. For a wedding, anniversary or baptism, on the photo of the event.
This is How to set up a table in style at home for your best friends.
Umbert is sure that with this setting, his friends will start a great evening, have fun, and enjoy an amazing dinner.
What must be remembered : keep it simple and chic. Even for a little party, try to respect those rules. This not to show off, but you want your friends to have a wonderful experience when visiting.
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At 94, Charles Aznavour died on the night of Sunday in France.
Charles Aznavour was loved in France of course, but also in Asia, the US and all over the world.
He has been on stage worldwide, where he sang some of his most famous songs in English.
He was a true gentleman all his life, starting as a son of the immigrantion, and become one of the most famous French singer.
Most of his songs were inspired by his Parisian anecdotes.
Did you know that Charles Aznavour was a king ? And still is …
Let’s check his most famous songs and gentleman values.
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Best methodology to become irresistible
Innovative technique to unleash your charisma
Learn the new etiquette & manners
A better lifestyle
« Take me Along the end of the earth », Charles Aznavour, French singer
« Emmenez-moi au bout de la terre », Charles Aznavour, chanteur Français
In this article :
1) Take me Along
2) Bohemia
3) As they say
5) I already saw myself
1) Take me Along
Charles Aznavour leaves some wonderful songs behind him.
“Take me away” is an invitation to discover the other cultures and adapt to different civilizations.
Don’t forget that he was born from an immigrant family in France, so he had to adapt to a foreign culture very young, but also learn about his Armenian family one.
He will get a star for this song on the famous Walk of Fame of Los Angeles.
Listen to the the song :
2) Bohemia
“Bohemia” is the art of being happy.
On stage, he always sang it with a white handkerchief in his hand, a symbol of eternal and innocent youth.
This song becomes the hymn of a generation in Paris.
Listen to the the song :
3) As they say
“As they say” is an invitation to tolerance, especially for the gay community.
He was inspired by his driver’s life. This shows us how he took care of his siblings and the people in general.
This song was a controversy in France at that time.
But Charles Aznavour remained strong on his beliefs.
Listen to the the song :
5) I already saw myself
« I already saw myself » is a song about his optimism.
As a son of an Armenian family, he dedicated his life to his career.
In this song, we can see the hope of a young guy.
A real lesson for all of us.
Listen to the the song :
These values associated with socially adapted behaviors are those that Umbert likes and transmits in his blog.
Thank you Charles for your talent and what you have transmitted all over the world.
Did you know that Charles Aznavour was a king ? And still is …
A gentleman is leaving, a king who guides us remains …
What must be remembered : try to listen his songs, most of them are translated. This will give you hope, tenacity and the satisfaction that brings achievement.
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He loves this place, just renovated with so much elegance ! It is also one of the best spot for the pastries, and Umbert can’t wait to see the amazing birthday cake.
Georges is a real French aristocrat, so Umbert will pay attention to his manners, especially when arriving.
Show time !!! Umbert shows you how to arrive at the party in style !
Benefits of this coaching :
Best methodology to become irresistible
Innovative technique to unleash your charisma
Learn the new etiquette & manners
A better lifestyle
« Life is party. Dress for it », Audrey Hepburn, English actress
« La vie est une fête. Habillez-vous pour la circonstance », Audrey Hepburn, actrice anglaise
In this article :
1) Dress to impress
2) Bring a gift
1) Dress to impress
Don’t forget to check or ask for the dress code. Adapt your style to the evening.
You don’t want to look underdressed and ridiculous.
It also shows that you respect the hosts and the other guests.
But always wear confortable ones, the ones you like, so you won’t be or look under pressure.
Don’t forget that people may judge you on your outfit, especially in Asia and Europe.
2) Bring a gift
It is always recommended to bring a gift to the hosts.
For a dinner, bringing chocolates is very popular and easy.
Wine or champagne as well, but you have to choose a very good one. Ask for advices in a wine shop if you don’t know. Ask them for something that nobody knows, from another country for exemple.
Avoid liquors if one of the hosts is a woman.
« Thank you Umbert for the wine advices. With my wife Amy, we’ve been to a neighbor house warming party. I stopped by an amazing wine shop in L.A., and bought a bottle of a fantastic white wine from New Zealand. We were so lucky because the neighbors honeymoon was there. », Jay L.
Everyone can offer flowers: children, women, men. But if the rule is easy, nothing is more difficult than knowing how to apply it :
The choice of the flowers varies according to the personality of the hostess, the circumstances, the decor.
There is a language of flowers. Ask for advices at the flower shop.
For a dinner or lunch, you can send them the day before, the morning or the next day to thank.
You must remain classic: avoid paper and plastic decoration.
Ask for a transparent packaging, it’s more chic.
The label is proscribed for potted flowers.
Waterproof paper bouquets with water are allowed.
Do not offer gladioli and carnations.
Offer by odd number except for the dozens.
If you know them very well, you can choose something more personal. For exemple I like books, so I always try to find one that matches their passions.
Umbert travels a lot, so he never forget to buy something original he can offer. People love his gifts because it also bring a part of the travel. It is also a good way to start the conversation with where he has been.
If they have children, bring them a little toy or so, they will really appreciate.
Don’t forget to add a personal card.
Show time !!! How to arrive at the party in style ?
In fact, try to stay natural, discreet and chic.
Umbert likes to arrive in silence, but with the right outfit and gift, so everybody will pay attention.
What must be remembered : arriving in style is an art. Avoid making noise or pretending. People like discreet and chic guests. The perfect gift, that the hosts will remember,will make all the difference in next days.
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Yesterday night Umbert had a meeting with his best friend Diane at the Café de Flore.
Paris is so busy in November, everybody is in town working and having fun.
So he was late.
Do people care when you’re late ? Here is what to say.
Benefits of this coaching :
Best methodology to become irresistible
Innovative technique to unleash your charisma
Learn the new etiquette & manners
A better lifestyle
« Being late is an act of violence », Mahatma Gandhi
« Etre en retard est un acte de violence », Mahatma Gandhi
In this article :
1) What to say when you are late
2) How to act when you are late
3) The next day
1) What to say when you are late
Being late is not a problem, as long as you contact the other person as soon as you can.
Do not forget to call ahead.
If you known it in advance, give a courteous version.
If it is last minute, give the real reason that will be valid.
Always give a real and logic reason. Lying would be the worst, because people always figure it out.
Exemple : Umbert is late to meet Diane. He calls her immediately, saying that the traffic is crazy in Paris, and he should be 15 to 30 late.
2) How to act when you are late
The best solution is to take it easy. Stress would accentuate the problem.
Here is a process :
Even if you arrive angry, stay silent for a moment in front of the door and breathe calmly.
If necessary, check your outfit, your hairstyle.
Enter calmly.
Follow the rules of the presentations according to what the hostess will do.
If there are many people, a “good evening” discreet will be said to the crowd.
Only the persons expressly presented by the hostess will be greeted.
Isn’t it easy ?
« I have tried this process many times, thank you Umbert for all the advices ! », François B.
3) The next day
The best is to send a card the next day to excuse yourself, especially if you were enable to attend.
Then, invite the people for something fun, so they will apologize and forget.
Diane was so happy that Umbert called. Now she knows what to do : continue to shop the amazing dresses from the best designers in Saint -Germain, or watch the people going to the Paris Fashion Week to check their amazing outfits and get inspirations.
Umbert knows how to behave in all circumstances.
Do people care when you’re late ? Yes they do, so you have to know what to say.
What must be remembered : take it easy and follow the process, then everything will be fine. The worst would be to lie.
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