Should we still do the hand-kissing in Paris, New York, London, Shangaï and Auckland ? (Vidéo & Podcast)


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“Ocean’s 8” shows us the “hand-kissing” ! Richard Armitage, allias Claude Becker, bow in front of Anne Hataway, allias Daphne Kluger, and makes her the “hand-kissing”.

Umbert is used to major international events, and he knows the MET Gala in New York, where the movie takes place.

He likes to watch pretty girls in evening dresses, all very originals.

But Should we still do the hand-kissing in Paris, New York, London, Shangaï and Auckland ?


« I am in favor of maintaining the French habit of hand-kissing; after all, you have to start somewhere », Sacha Guitry, French cineast

« Je suis en faveur du maintien de l’habitude française du baise-main; après tout il faut bien commencer quelque part », Sacha Guitry, metteur en scène Français


In this article :

1) When to do a hand-kissing

2) How to do a hand-kissing


1) When to do a hand-kissing

Nowdays, the hand-kissing is reserved to a conservative upper class or diplomats. 

It is also still used in countries like Malaysia, Bruneï or Indonesia. There it is a common way to greet elder people of both genders, primarily the closest relatives (both parents, grandparents, and uncles or aunts) and teachers.

The “hand-kissing” is chic, but requires courtesy, restraint and elegance.

It is never practiced in the street, or in a public place : cafe, restaurant, opera, cinema, beach, etc …

It must be avoided with foreigners who are not used to it, except those who used to the international etiquette.

During a reception, a man can only do a hand-kissing to the mistress of the house, and the elderly ladies.

Umbert specifies that it can only be practiced with married women.

It is not appropriate for a gloved hand, except the one of a dear friend.


2) How to do a hand-kissing

The technique :

1 The man must not raise the lady outstretched hand towards him. The lady gives her hand.

2 The man must bow a little, and touch the hand he gently takes.

3 He does not kiss the hand but touches it with his chin.

4 The kiss must be fast, brief.

Don’t forget to train with a friend, it should fun !


Umbert is looking forward to traveling again to these major international events.

New York often misses him, but Paris is more into his heart.

What must be remembered : just remember the technique, so when you go to an event where you see the others doing the hand-kissing, you will be able to do it.


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