The best February weekend in Paris (vidéo & podcast)


Umbert joins Paris after participating in the International Comic Strip Festival in Angoulême (France).

His favorites were: Batman celebrating his 80th birthday and the Taiyo Matsumoto retrospective devoted to childhood.

It is now time to spend a festive weekend with his best friends in Paris.

Benefits of this coaching :

  • Best methodology to become irresistible
  • An innovative technique to unleash your charisma
  • Learn the new etiquette & manners
  • A better lifestyle

« The trip is the part of the dream. », Xavier Roy Photographer.

« Le voyage c’est la part du rêve. », Xavier Roy Photographe.

In this article :

1) Day 1

  • Check-in: Le Pavillon de la Reine
  • Brunch: Café des Musées
  • Shopping: Isaac Reina, Le Slip Français, Saint James, Pied de Biche, Bonne Gueule, Merci
  • Organic cosmetic shop: Huygens
  • Hairdresser: Kare Hair Stylist
  • Diner: Le Train Bleu
  • Cocktail: Danico

2) Day 2

  • Coffee & Croissants: Le Pavillon de la Reine
  • Exhibition: Japon-Japonisme-Objects Inspired
  • Brunch: Chez Monsieur-Royal Madeleine
  • City tour: Champs-Elysées
  • Diner: L’Ambroisie
  • Show & Cocktail: 38 RIV

3) Day 3

  • Brunch: Georges
  • Exhibition: The Cubism
  • High tea: Le Dali

4) The cool stuff

  • A.L.K Atelier Lytfa Kujawski

1) Day 1

  • Check-in
Le Pavillon de la Reine 28 Place des Vosges, 75003 Paris

In the heart of the Marais district, Umbert chose this address to appreciate the charm and the discretion of this place, full of history, on the oldest site of Paris. Umbert and his friends like to chat in the living room of the restored hotel, in front of the big fireplace, forgetting the time.

Le Pavillon de la Reine 28 Place des Vosges, 75003 Paris

  • Brunch 14:00-15:00
Café des Musées 49 Rue de Turenne, 75003 Paris 

The best beef bourguignon in Paris! Umbert doesn’t hesitate to recommend this dish to his friends. The dish simmers 5 hours according to a traditional recipe: a real bistro and a family kitchen.

Café des Musées 49 Rue de Turenne, 75003 Paris

  • Shopping 15:00-17:00
Isaac Reina 12 Rue de Thorigny, 75003 Paris 

The motto of Isaac Reina is: “Keeping the essentials: the function” Umbert finds that by choosing men’s bags of pure and natural beauty. He likes Model Number 909, the perfect bag for the weekend.

Isaac Reina 12 Rue de Thorigny, 75003 Paris

Le Slip Français 137 Rue Vieille du Temple, 75003 Paris 

All underwear for men gathers in this fantastic shop: underpants, boxers, pajamas, socks. The choice is vast, the colors and the motifs are inventive. Umbert chooses boxers “Marius Quatro.»

Le Slip Français 137 Rue Vieille du Temple, 75003 Paris

Saint James 116 Rue Vieille du Temple, 75003 Paris, France 

You will be sexy and so trendy with a striped sweater and a hat like sailors.

Saint James 116 Rue Vieille du Temple, 75003 Paris, France

Pied de Biche 5 Rue Commines, 75003 Paris 

For comfort and elegance, Umbert loves to put on shoes with city sneakers. The model with leather upper is perfect for walking on pavers, or in the countryside, and combines with many types of pants.

Pied de Biche 5 Rue Commines, 75003 Paris

Bonne Gueule 15 Rue Commines, 75003 Paris 

The line “Bonne Gueule” offers casual clothes, adapted to the current lifestyle. Humbert also looks at the Hast brand for shirts and also recommends this shop for the advice of the vendors.

Bonne Gueule 15 Rue Commines, 75003 Paris

Merci 111 Boulevard Beaumarchais, 75003 Paris 

Umbert likes the idea that this concept store gives back some of the benefits to support the cause of Malagasy women and children. In addition to the decorative objects and clothes, there are various rare and exclusive pieces.

Merci 111 Boulevard Beaumarchais, 75003 Paris

  • Organic cosmetic shop 17:00-18:00
Huygens 24 Rue du Temple, 75004 Paris 

The commitment of the brand is to respect the man and the environment according to very demanding criteria — no tests on animals, biodegradable or recyclable packaging. Umbert particularly appreciates the possibility of choosing its tailor-made products, prepared for you according to your choices. The range “Belle Gueule” for men is lovely.

Huygens 24 Rue du Temple, 75004 Paris

  • Hairdresser 18:00 – 19:00
Kare Hair Stylist 4 bis Rue Saint-Sauveur, 75002 Paris

Umbert practices sporting activities in the magnificent “Le Klay” room and goes to the “Kare” hairdressing salon, which opened in this prestigious setting. It is a “bubble where to relax” as Jérémy Fromentin, the manager, rightly says.

Kare Hair Stylist 4 bis Rue Saint-Sauveur, 75002 Paris

  • Diner 20:00 – 23:00
Le Train Bleu Gare de Lyon Place Louis-Armand, 75012 Paris 

A real palace that was built for the Universal Exhibition of 1900. In 1963, the restaurant took the name “The Blue Train” in tribute to the famous train of the same color that went from Paris to Ventimiglia in Italy and the very chic French Riviera. Salvator Dali, Jean Cocteau, and Brigitte Bardot have breathed these magical places. Umbert has selected: home-cooked foie gras, leg of lamb, rum baba.

Le Train Bleu Gare de Lyon Place Louis-Armand, 75012 Paris  

  • Cocktail 23:00
Danico 6 Rue Vivienne, 75002 Paris

After crossing the Daroco restaurant, Umbert and his friends sip delirious cocktails listening to the rhythm of the 80s funk. Jean likes the “Kota Termate,” a mix of 3 rums. “Camille” is a cocktail without alcohol composed of beet juice and coconut water. Umbert is tempted by “For You Barman.”

Danico 6 Rue Vivienne, 75002 Paris

2) Day 2

  • Coffee & Croissants (at the hotel) 10:00 – 12:00
Le Pavillon de la Reine 28 Place des Vosges, 75003 Paris

Discreet and elegant, steeped in history, the breakfast corner invites you to the relaxation and indulgence. The pancakes are amazing, the scrambled eggs too, the jams and the honey are delicious — what an excellent time to start an intense Parisian day.

Le Pavillon de la Reine 28 Place des Vosges, 75003 Paris

  • Exhibition 12:00-14:00
Japon-Japonisme-Objets Inspirés, 1867-2018. 107 Rue de Rivoli, 75001 Paris (until 15/03/2019) 

In 1867, Japan participated for the first time in a world exhibition. Japanism became an artistic movement in Europe. The Musée des Arts Décoratifs is dedicating this exhibition to more than 1500 objects during 150 years of history. Umbert appreciated the mix of tradition and modernity that inspires the presentation of objects.

Japon-Japonisme-Objets Inspirés, 1867-2018. 107 Rue de Rivoli, 75001 Paris (until 15/03/2019)

  • Brunch 14:00 – 16:00
Chez Monsieur-Royal Madeleine 11 Rue du Chevalier de Saint-George, 75008 Paris 

Umbert trains his friend Alexandre in this chic bistro to discover the Provencal frog legs or veal blanquette casserole. For dessert the crêpes sauées Suzette. A stop of happiness for gourmands.

Chez Monsieur-Royal Madeleine 11 Rue du Chevalier de Saint-George, 75008 Paris

  • City tour 16:00-18:00

“In the Champs-Elysees, in the sun, in the rain, at midday or midnight, there is everything you want at the Champs-Elysees” sang Joe Dassin (French singer).

An architecture-oriented walk will allow you to discover “the most beautiful avenue in the world. »

Umbert recommends admiring the 19th-century facades:

Guerlain House

At number 68, the Guerlain House: you have to enter to discover a magical world of luxury and tradition. Why not be tempted by a traditional “Habit Rouge” eau de toilette or the perfume “L’Homme Idéal L’Intense. »

At number 74, the Claridge Gallery.

Cartier House

At number 154, the Cartier House is in a beautiful mansion; you will admire the interior decoration and crystal chandeliers.

Arc de Triomphe

A visit to the Arc de Triomphe allows to see all Paris and to have an unforgettable souvenir.

At number 133, a historic address, the Drugstore-Publicis, commercial space symbolic of the years 1958. You will find there everything you need.

Louis Vuitton store

At number 101, the largest Louis Vuitton store in the world. The art-deco facade and the interior structure of the store are an invitation to travel and discoveries.

Artcurial building

At the Champs Elysées roundabout, stop in front of the Artcurial building, and take the time to admire the details.

Umbert hopes that this Parisian and fantastic walk seduces you.

  • Diner 19:00 – 20:00
L’Ambroisie 9 Place des Vosges, 75004 Paris 

This private address is a place steeped in history and traditional cuisine. Umbert advises langoustines with sesame, wild turbot with shallots and for dessert a light tart with bitter cocoa.

L’Ambroisie 9 Place des Vosges, 75004 Paris

  • Show & Cocktail 20:00 – 23:00
38 RIV 38 Rue de Rivoli, 75004 Paris 

In a 12th century cellar is an intimate jazz club. The program is varied and eclectic, and it changes every week. While sipping a cocktail, it’s the soul of the music that you have to discover. Paris is famous for its jazz cellars.

38 RIV 38 Rue de Rivoli, 75004 Paris

3) Day 3

  • Brunch 11:00 – 13:00
Georges 6th floor Centre Pompidou Place Georges Pompidou, 75004 Paris 

From the Eiffel Tower to Montmartre you will have an incredible view of Paris. Enjoy snails and spicy lobster pasta in this theatrical setting.

Georges 6th floor Centre Pompidou Place Georges Pompidou, 75004 Paris

  • Exhibition 13:00 – 16:00
Le Cubisme. Le Centre Pompidou Place Georges-Pompidou, 75004 Paris (until 25/02/2019) 

Cubism is a decisive moment in the history of modern art. John Golding, an art historian, defines it as “a way of approaching the new world.” Braque, Picasso, Juan Gris, Fernand Léger, lead us into this universe that will change modern painting.

Le Cubisme. Le Centre Pompidou Place Georges-Pompidou, 75004 Paris (until 25/02/2019)

  • High tea 16:00
Le Dali at hotel Meurice 228 Rue de Rivoli, 75001 Paris 

Cédric Grolet, elected “Best Pastry Chef in the World 2018” offers unique and delicate creations. Umbert enjoyed the pepper sandwich and his friend Astrid the “Paris-Brest” absolutely divine.

Le Dali at hotel Meurice 228 Rue de Rivoli, 75001 Paris

4) The cool stuff: learn how to draw with a French artist

A.L.K Atelier Lytfa Kujawski 18 rue de Thorigny, 75003Paris all@lytfa.net

“I’ve spent my life learning how to draw like a child” Pablo Picasso.
Beginner or advanced, Lytfa teaches you the art of drawing according to your personality. She provides all that you need, and you can choose a theme or let Lytfa guide you. Classes are with a group or private, contact Lytfa for an appointment. Dare to draw and create like a child!

A.L.K Atelier Lytfa Kujawski 18 rue de Thorigny, 75003Paris all@lytfa.net

Umbert hopes you will enjoy this beautiful weekend in Paris.

Next month he will make you discover other amazing places in this fantastic capital.

What you must remember: It is essential to know some rules of life, especially in France, to adopt a chic attitude. Umbert’s advice helps you all year long.

How to become irresistible? Download now the free eBook available on this blog.

Bon voyage!

The best November weekend ever in Paris (Vidéo & Podcast)

 

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Umbert has been to Comporta near Lisbon, with his friend Eduardo, to enjoy the Indian summer.

He now joins his friends from the US in Paris, to celebrate Thanksgiving with his family “in style”.

It’s a warm and privileged moment that he loves.

He takes the opportunity to make you discover The best November weekend in Paris.

Benefits of this coaching :

  • Best methodology to become irresistible
  • Innovative technique to unleash your charisma
  • Learn the new etiquette & manners
  • A better lifestyle

 

« Fall is winter’s spring », Henri de Toulouse-Lautrec, French painter

« L’automne est le printemps de l’hiver », Henri de Toulouse-Lautrec, peintre Français

 

 

In this article :

1) Day 1

  • Check-in : Four Seasons Hôtel Gorge V
  • Brunch : Le Bon Georges
  • Shopping : Vestiaire Général, L’Occitane
  • Hairdresser : Four Seasons Hôtel Gorge V
  • Diner : Apicius
  • Cocktail : Little Red Door

2) Day 2

  • Coffee & Croissants : Four Seasons Hôtel Gorge V
  • Exhibition : Basquiat & Egon Schiele à La Fondation Louis Vuitton
  • Brunch : Le Frank à la Fondation Louis Vuitton
  • Diner : Café de la Paix
  • Show : Jerome Robbins à l’Opéra Garnier, La Traviata à l’Opera Bastille
  • Cocktail : Lulu White

3) Day 3

  • Brunch : La Maison Rose
  • City tour : Montmartre 
  • Coffee & tea : Four Seasons Hôtel Gorge V

 

When travelling to Paris Umbert recommends the travel guide Lonely Planet Paris. He likes it because it gives you a lot of details about the culture, monuments, maps, and other cool spots.You can buy it directly from link.

 

1) Day 1

  • Check-in

Four Seasons Hôtel George V, 31 avenue George V 75008 Paris

The excellence of the hotel industry, near the Champs-Élysées, ideal to discover Paris. Umbert likes to meet his friends at the hotel bar to chat, an essential Parisian meeting place. It is also the only palace to have 3 restaurants with 3 starred chefs.

Four Seasons Hôtel George V, 31 avenue GeorgeV 75008 Paris 

  • Brunch 14:00-15:00 

Le Bon Georges, 45 rue Saint Georges 75009 Paris

Must-have restaurant for meat! A true Parisian “bistro” as in the past. Umbert loved the rabbit terrine with hazelnuts and the chicken stuffed with morels. A relaxed atmosphere very frenchie! Ideal for a Thanksgiving meal that lingers …

Le Bon Georges, 45 rue Saint Georges 75009 Paris

  • Shopping 15:00-17:00

Vestiaire Général, 3 rue Victor Massé 75009 Paris

Vestiaire Général :  environment friendly, this shop offers clothes with excellence and ethics. Umbert liked FDB Paris for their t-shirts, Bleu de Chauffe which favors a clean design for stylish and practical bags and Kost shoes. Vestiaire Général, 3 rue Victor Massé 75009 Paris 

L’Occitane, 8 rue Halévy 75009 Paris

L’Occitane : the cosmetic line for men is very complete, Umbert uses: the after-shave balm Cade, the Immortelle Precious Cream for the face, the shampoo pure freshness, and especially the organic butter. L’Occitane, 8 rue Halévy 75009 Paris 

  • Hairdresser 18:00 – 19:00

Four Seasons Hôtel George V, 31 avenue George V 75008 Paris

The George V Hotel has a new spa in a sumptuous Louis XVI style, a huge pool and a relaxation area with steam room. After enjoying the exceptional facilities, go to the hairdresser to prepare yourself for the evening.

Four Seasons Hôtel George V, 31 avenue GeorgeV 75008 Paris

  • Diner 20:00 – 23:00

Apicius, 20 rue D’Artois 75008 Paris

One of the most beautiful restaurant of Paris, for a dinner out of time and in a dream setting. Umbert chose the frog legs and lobster.

Apicius, 20 rue D’Artois 75008 Paris

  • Cocktail 23:00

Little Red Door, 60 rue Charlot 75003 Paris

Ranked 11th by the World’s Best Bar, you have to discover this hidden cocktail bar. Umbert appreciates the “Gin Beefater” and his friend Paul the “Whiskey Bulleit Rye”, blend of cognac, dates and violet tea.

Little Red Door, 60 rue Charlot 75003 Paris

 

2) Day 2

  • Coffee & Croissants 10:00 – 12:00

Four Seasons Hôtel George V, 31 avenue George V 75008 Paris

Michelin starred chefs prepare an exceptional breakfast for Umbert and his friends. A fabulous French-American blend with waffles, croissants, seasonal fruits, salmon eggs and the best fruit juices.

Four Seasons Hôtel George V, 31 avenue George V 75008 Paris 

  • Exhibition 12:00-14:00

Exposition Basquiat & Egon Schiele à la Fondation Louis Vuitton, 8 avenue du Mahatma Gandhi 75116 Paris

The exhibition Basquiat revives, through his works, the underground New York of the 1980s. A must see “Riding with Death” which expresses all the suffering of these years. 

From New York to Vienna, to discover a revolution, the « Jugendstil”, through the four themes developed by Schiele.

Exposition Basquiat & Egon Schiele à la Fondation Louis Vuitton, 8 avenue du Mahatma Gandhi 75116 Paris (until 01/14/2019) 

  • Brunch 14:00 – 16:00

Le Franck, Fondation Louis Vuitton 8 avenue du Mahatma Gandhi 75116 Paris

Umbert chooses to have a quick brunch there, admiring the greenery of the Acclimatization Garden.

Le Franck, Fondation Louis Vuitton 8 avenue du Mahatma Gandhi 75116 Paris

  • Diner 19:00 – 20:00

Café de la Paix, 5 Place de l’Opéra 75009 Paris

Since May 5 1862, the Hotel de la Paix, later the InterContinental Paris le Grand, and the Café de la Paix are real institutions, famous throughout the world. Umbert loves the Second Empire elegance, frescoes and sumptuous gilding, facing the flamboyant Opéra-Garnier. Umbert and his friends will have a seafood feast!

Café de la Paix, 5 Place de l’Opéra 75009 Paris 

  • Show 20:00 – 23:00 

Jerome Robbins à l’Opéra Garnier, 8 rue Scribe 75009 Paris

The Paris Opera pays homage to Jerome Robbins, by presenting ballets from the creator of the choreography of West Side Story. The energetic “Glass Pieces », the sweetness of “Afternoon of a Faun”, “A Suite of Dances” and the famous “Fancy Free ».

Jerome Robbins à l’Opéra Garnier, 8 rue Scribe 75009 Paris  (until 11/14/2018)

Other choice:

Verdi created the character of Violetta, who must make the tragic choice between love and moral duty, in a critical and voyeuristic society.

La Traviata à l’Opéra Bastille, Place de la Bastille 75012 Paris (until 12/29/2018)

  • Cocktail 23:00

Lulu White, 12 rue Frochot 75009 Paris

An extravagant “Belle Epoque” decoration for this cocktail bar, and a specialty: absinthe-based cocktails. Umbert advises the “Parrots in Picardie”. Forbidden 100 years ago, absinthe was made famous by the painter Van Gogh and the writer Verlaine. Today no more problem, the “Green Fairy”, because of the color of the leaves, is back.

Lulu White, 12 rue Frochot 75009 Paris 

 

3) Day 3

  • Brunch 11:00 – 13:00

La Maison Rose, 2 rue de l’Abreuvoir 75018 Paris

Maurice Utrillo, French painter, has immortalized this little pink house in the heart of Montmartre which reflects the soul. Umbert likes to listen to the owner of this restaurant who tells his story while enjoying a delicious “Basquaise chicken” or octopus.

La Maison Rose, 2 rue de l’Abreuvoir 75018 Paris

  • Exhibition or City tour 13:00 – 16:00

Montmartre

Visit the historic heart of Montmartre.

Take rue des Saules to admire the vineyards of Montmartre, the ghost of the house of Aristide Bruant, singer of La Belle Epoque, the Agile Rabbit, a cabaret whose history must be discovered, formerly “Cabaret of the Assassins,” then ” Rendez-vous of Thieves “, and finally St. Vincent Cemetery.

Norvins and Saint-Rustique streets are the center of the historical Montmartre, with old artists’ houses. Finally, a visit to the Basilica of the Sacred Heart is required.

Montmartre website

  • High tea 16:00

Four Seasons Hôtel George V, 31 avenue George V 75008 Paris

Before leaving, Umbert is back at the Hotel Georges V, where the starred chefs will serve him the best high-tea ever, full of organic teas and amazing French pastries.

Four Seasons Hôtel George V, 31 avenue George V 75008 Paris 

 

Umbert spent an amazing weekend with his close friends. So many memories, gifts and photos … 

Umbert hopes that these tips will help you. “I always enjoy reading Umbert weekends in Paris, it makes me dream !”, Georges S.

The leaves of the trees have fallen, soon replaced by the Christmas lights. Umbert is already preparing the month of December which is fairy in Paris. Do not miss his next weekend in Paris!

What to remember: the French attach a lot of importance to their group of friends. It is often difficult and long to be part of it, but once accepted, this friendship lasts a very long time.

How to become irresistible ? Download now the free eBook Behave (only available this month).

Bon voyage !

Umbert De Paris

Don’t go to the restaurant on a 1st date ! Try to find the Phantom of the Opera … (Vidéo & podcast)

 

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Today Umbert advises his friend Alexis, visiting Paris from Montecito in California, about dating.

Alexis thinks that French girls are tough regarding the dates, that’s why he looks for any original ideas.

The 2 friends think that the more original the place will be, the better chances Alexis will have.

They don’t want to look like random guys going in a random restaurant. 

They want something new, unexpected, creating a surprise them so the girl will have a crush on Alexis

That’s why Umbert advices Alexis to not go to the restaurant on a 1st date ! Try to find the Phantom of the Opera ….

 

« Paris is very small for those who love each other with such great love. », Jacques Prévert, French writter

« Paris est tout petit pour ceux qui s’aiment d’un aussi grand amour. » Jacques Prévert, écrivain Français

 

In this article :

1) Basic rules for a date

2) The restaurant

3) The cocktail or wine bar

4) Everything else is the best ! 

 

1) Basic rules for a date 

The first appointment should be in a neutral place, not late at night. Never at ones home.

Choose a refined place, quiet to talk.

The choice of the place is difficult because it is also very related to the habits of the protagonists and their intellectual level.

Try to find something close to where both of you live. You don’t want to have time for a lot of hesitations on your way home.

Avoid places where your friends are, or where you know everybody. Your princess wants the all attention. You want to be as natural as possible, and you won’t be if your friends or acquaintances are around.

If you haven’t met already, remember to mention a distinctive sign so you will recognize each other (color of your clothes for exemple)

 

2) The restaurant

This is one of the most common idea.

If you choose this one, try to find something original and chic.

You can choose a place with an all new experience. For exemple an Indian restaurant with a Bollywood decoration, and a very friendly staff. 

Another idea would be an ice restaurant, build with ice. 

The goal is to surprise her, and this place will be the topic to start the discussion.

Always stay with chic places, even if they are specials.

Fine dining are very old school, unless they organise a special and fun event. For exemple an oysters and champagne evening, or a thematic party.

A woman will always be flattered to be invited to a fine dining, but Umbert would keep this option for the second time. It will improve again the surprise effect, and also reassure her.

Don’t forget to check my article Chronology on how to behave at the restaurant like a gentleman, and respect the New Etiquette (Video & Podcast) before going to the restaurant.

 

3) The cocktail or wine bar

Having a drink in a wine or cocktail bar, then dine elsewhere is a very good option.

At least, if something goes wrong, you’ll be on time to cancel the restaurant.

Choose an intimate place, with beautiful lights, perfect for the conversation. The candles highlight women, and make them feel confortable.

Avoid loud music and too much noise in general, it will stress you.

 

4) Everything else is the best !

Umbert likes to go for a picnic, in a calm and beautiful place. Women never expect you to organize such a thing. It is also a chic idea, that shows that you don’t want to show off, but are real, simple and sincere.

An other option that always work is to travel somewhere for the night. This means that you will have booked the tickets or the place before, but this is very exiting and you will have plenty of things to talk about regarding this short trip. If you are in Paris try some chic destinations like Deauville, Dinan or Biarritz on the coast. If you are in New York, the Bahamas for the night always works !

If she likes sport or culture, or both which is better, try to find an amazing event that you can do together. For exemple the escape game Inside Opera where you have to find the Phantom of the Opera, in the real Opera garner. This is fun, chic and amazing !

 

Umbert is sure that Alexis, who works in the movie industry in Los Angeles, will find great ideas. The French girls will have a crush on him for sure !

Now, dear Alexis, you have to pay the bill ! 

Love and romance are at every corner in Paris.

And Paris is a city where you can plan and imagine whatever original idea you want, so be creative … and she will kiss you !

Before going out on a date, read my article How to be a winner at the first date (Podcast & vidéo).

 

What must be remembered : never show off on a first date, be sincere, simple, chic and original. Spend time to find a very good spot to be a winner.

 

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Bon voyage !

Umbert De Paris

Chronology on how to behave at the restaurant like a gentleman, and respect the New Etiquette (Video & Podcast)

 

To listen to the podcast click here : http://media.blubrry.com/umbertdeparis/content.blubrry.com/umbertdeparis/VJcnTsKb3PhLwXrioFQt.mp3

 

 

Umbert loves to go to the restaurant. He is a gourmet, and every month, he gives you his choices for the best places. You can check Umbert Weekends.

To behave correctly at the restaurant is not a protocol matter, but part of the art-de-vivre and new etiquette.

Umbert gives you the Chronology on how to behave at the restaurant like a gentleman, and respect the New Etiquette.

 

« The gastronomy is an incredible source of happiness” Pierre Hermé, famous French pastry chef.

« La gastronomie est une formidable source de bonheur », Pierre Hermé, célèbre chef pâtissier.

 

In this article :

1) Arriving at the restaurant

2) At the table

3) How to eat some dishes

4) Leaving the restaurant

 

1) Arriving at the restaurant

If you have invited a woman, be sure to arrive before the time, if not contact her. You can also read my article How to be a winner at the first date (Podcast & vidéo).

When arriving with a lady, a man always goes first to the restaurant, and hold the door. Why ? This is an old tradition : to protect the woman from looks, or fights that were common in hostels in the past. If there is a staircase : the man goes first, it is also an old tradition because the man should not see the legs of the woman, and when they go down to avoid a fall to the lady.

Enter and wait for the butler to place you.

If the butler leads a couple to the table, the woman goes first. 

It is important to wait until the hostess places you. However, you can politely ask to change if the table proposed does not suit you.

The man gently pulls the woman’s chair to invite her to sit down and extends her right hand to the table. The woman is still sitting in front of the room and on the bench if there is one.

When Umbert invites friends to the restaurant, he asks for a table, and leads his guests there.

 

2) At the table

If the man arrives before, and is already at the table, he must get up when the woman arrives to greet her.

Never sit down first. The bench is always reserved for ladies. If there are two women, they will be side by side. If there are only chairs, think of pulling the woman’s chair, unless the butler does it.

When you sit down to the table, immediately put your towel on your legs, without waiting for the dish. The towel should not be tied around the neck, shirt or belt. It must stay on your knees, except to wipe your lips before drinking, so the glass is not dirty.

Turn off your phone ! Personal items shouldn’t be on the table (sunglasses, phone, keys etc …).

Do not put elbows on the table while eating.

To make your choice on the menu, do not look at the neighbors’ plate at another table. Do not choose dishes which are too expensive, to respect the other guest regarding the bill, or too modest, so you’ll seem cheap.

The host chooses the wines, after having asked everybody if his choice suits them. 

When the waiter comes to you with a bottle of red wine, look at the label to check the order. Turn the red wine in your glass delicately before tasting and agreeing.

The men serves the drink to the ladies who accompanies them, unless the butler does it. 

Glasses : the water glass is the largest on the left. The red wine glass is the middle one, the smallest white wine glass is on the right. Wipe your lips before drinking so you do not stain the glass.

If you do not want to drink wine, do not put your hand on the glass to refuse, but say “no thank you” to the server.

The bread is not eaten before the first course is served, even if you are very hungry !

Before starting to taste the dishes, wait until everyone is served. Exception : if you are many at the table, and your neighbors ask you to start. But for an appetizer or a cold dish, wait for everyone to be served.

If you made a mistake while ordering a dish, ask the server quickly if you can still change. If this is no longer possible, accept your mistake with a smile.

There are numerous dining utensils to know. Take it easy : start from the ones on the outside, and come back toward the center when a new dish arrives.

Always put small portions of food into your mouth, and eat slowly.

Start the conversation and look the others in their eyes to talk. This prove your sincerity and improve your charism.

Avoid your problems, drama, work, vulgarity or heaviness. Do not complain about everything (climate, cost of living, car breakdown, noisy neighbors, etc …). Be open, balanced, attentive, confident, cheerful. Prefer funny anecdotes, travel, art or great experiences. Do not show off with your culture, especially if your guests are not intellectuals.

Umbert and his friends love to talk and laugh. They are often numerous at the restaurant. They know however that it is necessary to speak with a moderate tone not to disturb the other clients.

Fortunately everyone knows perfectly the rules of etiquette so there is no disorder, and nobody is shocked !

When they need more wine, and they always do, they call the staff, saying “sir” without speaking too loudly, and without making big gestures.

If you have to leave the table for a few minutes, excuse yourself, you don’t have to say why. Place the napkin on your chair (USA only), or on the left side of the plate (Europe).

If someone in the restaurant recognizes you and stop by for a short talk, just stand up for a few minutes.

 

3) How to eat some dishes  

The salad should not be cut with a knife. Take your fork to fold the large leaves.

The oysters are eaten with elegance. It is necessary to take the shell in the left hand, to unhook the flesh with the oyster fork, and to suck it with the water from shell without making noise.

The omelet is cut and eaten only with the fork.

For soft fishes, use the fish cutlery. If the flesh is hard use the cutlery especially the knife.

Fruit pies can be enjoyed with the desert spoon. If a pie is made with puff pastry, you can use a dessert knife to keep it from breaking.

Chocolate cake can leave traces around the mouth. Remember to wipe your lips, especially before drinking, so you won’t stain the glass.

 

4) Leaving the restaurant

At the end the host asks for the bill, and pay it discreetly, or share with the other men. If there are errors, do not discuss them in front of the guests. 

The tip should be around 15%, more if the service was amazing or if you get special attentions and gifts.

As you leave, slide between the tables facing the next table.

On your way out thank the staff and compliment the manager, saying that it was delicious and you will come back.

On leaving, do not talk on the sidewalk making noise, people sleep around.

If a woman has come by taxi, or with her own car, accompany her. For the taxi, open the side door on the sidewalk for the woman. If you take it too, go around to get on the street side. 

If you take her home, wait until she has entered the building.

Call everybody the next day to thank for this amazing diner at the restaurant.

 

This is a lot of advices on how to behave at the restaurant like a gentleman, and respect the New Etiquette, and more will come… 

Try to learn them step by step, so each time you go to the restaurant add one.

Don’t forget to check Umbert Weekends to find some cool spots.

What you should remember : it is very important to respect the new etiquette and good manners at the restaurant. Your guests will judge your education and savoir-vivre on this. Your reputation depends on it, and it is even more important for business lunches.

 

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How to be a winner at the first date (Podcast & vidéo)

 

To listen to the podcast click here : http://media.blubrry.com/umbertdeparis/content.blubrry.com/umbertdeparis/z3vCdIZEKWJuNc8gvH61.mp3

 

 

Umbert’s friend Alexandre looks for a fiancée and asks for advices on How to be a winner at the first date if he meets a pretty girl, and asks her for a date. 

Umbert is a man to whom his friends like to confess. Politeness and friendship have a rule : never tell another person the confidences made by a friend.

Today he meets Alexandre at the Café de Flore in Paris.

Umbert explains that pretty girls are difficult to seduce, and they pay attention to the etiquette and good manners, so it is important to follow his advices.

After meeting the “right person”, here is the second crucial moment : the date.

It is also the second difficult part, because everything will have to be in fineness and elegance.

 

“You’ll never have a second chance to make a good impression,” David Swanson

« Vous n’aurez jamais une seconde chance de faire une bonne impression », David Swanson

 

In this article :

1) General rules for a date

2) The date at the restaurant 

3) The conversation during the date

 

1) General rules for a date

Simplicity is key. Be yourself, lying is a waste of time, she will discover who you really are anyway.

The smile is the number one asset of seduction. Be friendly and charming.

The one who makes a woman laugh will be ahead of the one who floods her with to many compliments.

Have physical, moral and intellectual elegance.

Highlight your qualities. For example, your success in an industry or a sport. There may be other contenders, so put all the chances on your side. Whether you are beautiful, intelligent, rich or the opposite, girls like success. Do not show off with your money, car or house. Make yourself appreciate for yourself, it’s important for the future.

Before the appointment, you can think of a few topics. A man who does not know what to say will have no chance to please.

Avoid at all costs the vulgarity, the “heaviness” in the behavior, and don’t do too much, or say too much.

In all cases avoid personal problems, excessive development, and focus on the interest of the other.

I you are open, balanced, attentive, confident, cheerful …. !! Then everything will be fine.

2) The date at the restaurant

  1. Arrive in advance . Never be late to the first appointment, it would be a huge and gross mistake. If it happens contact her as soon as possible to let her know, she will really appreciate. And don’t try the « sorry I’m so busy … », she wants you to be busy by her !  
  2. Personal items shouldn’t be on the table (sunglasses, phone, keys etc …). This is a table for you and her, not yours.
  3. Turn off your phone !
  4. Get up when the woman arrives to greet her.
  5. If you’ve never met and are disappointed : do not show it, you will not see again.
  6. Find a sentence to welcome her, delicate, kind without doing too much. A compliment on her outfit and elegance will always be appreciated. A little shyness does not hurt or at least a little reserve.
  7. Never sit down first. The bench is always reserved for ladies. If there are only chairs, think of pulling the woman’s chair, unless the butler does it.
  8. When you sit down to table, immediately put your towel on your legs, without waiting for the dish.
  9. Start the conversation and look her eyes to talk.
  10. It is the man who places the order at the Maître d’Hotel and chooses the wines, after having asked the woman if his choice suits her. Do not look at the neighbors’ plate at another table to make your choice.
  11. The man serves the drink to the woman who accompanies him, unless the butler does it.
  12. Before starting to taste the dishes, wait until she is served.
  13. If you have to leave the table for a few minutes, excuse yourself, you don’t have to say why. Place the napkin on your chair (USA only), or on the left side of the plate (Europe).
  14. If someone in the restaurant recognizes you and stop by for a short talk, just stand up for a few minutes.
  15. At the end, the man asks for the bill, and pay it discreetly. If there are errors, do not discuss them in front of her.
  16. On your way out thank the staff and compliment the manager. She will be sensitive to your politeness.

You can also read my article Chronology on how to behave at the restaurant like a gentleman, and respect the New Etiquette.

If all went well, ask for another date more original … You will find a good idea … !

You can take inspiration from Umbert’s monthly weekends, where you will find the latest perfect spots.

3) The conversation during the date

  • The Dos :

Ask her about her tastes, her life. (be careful, not on the intimate things).

Listen. Women love being listened to. Be attentive so she feels confident.If she speaks about her problems, listen, advise, but at least you will not have started. Give her always right … only for the first date of course !

Do not let the silence settle. It’s a disaster. Know how to re-engage the conversation with simple topics : news, travel. Be careful : no politics or religion ! No subject that make people arguing strongly.

Accept her opinions and speak calmly.

Unveil yourself, but not too much. Mysterious people always create curiosity in others, and always attract …

  • The Don’ts :

No drama, neither positive nor negative.

Do not talk about all your life, or do it briefly, without starting from childhood. Only mention happy and positive moments.

Do not flood the conversation of stories about your work, and especially with technical terms. Some funny anecdotes will be much more appreciated.

Do not show off with your culture, especially if your guest is not an intellectual.

Do not complain about everything (climate, cost of living, car breakdown, noisy neighbors, etc …).

Do not immediately talk about all the problems in your life (breaks, illness, loss of work, difficult children …). You would give a lamentable first image.

 

Alexander now feels reassured by Umbert’s advices on How to be a winner at the first date. They respect the New etiquette and good manners.

Umbert wishes Alexandre good luck, and offers to see him again if he needs further advices.

What should be remembered : feel confident and keep in mind that simplicity and smile are key. Never lie, she will find out.

 

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